any time i do something sexual with someone or simply just fantasize about a guy i'm crushing on i feel like i'm in love with them. but i know i'm not. so basically i wanna know how can i stop confusing sex for love?
2007-03-27 19:00:41 · 10 answers · asked by ♥♥♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Our culture does little to help teach the differences between touch, sex and emotions (including love).
If you want to get physical sexual release without the feelings associated with love, then the method usually used is to concentrate of the physical experience and forget about the person with whom you are copulating. This is the method used by professionals.
If on the other-hand, you want to learn how to express your emotions through sex, then only do it with a partner that you do share very strong emotions and nobody else. Make each and every action an expression of your love.
2007-03-31 11:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I've wondered about this a lot myself. The one thing I can conclude that makes the most sense is that, for women, it's hard to not feel in love with the person we're sleeping with because they're inside of you, they're a part of you for that moment. I've read most women want the guy to "stay inside" just after sex to have that connection as long as possible.
The line between lust and love is a thin one and easily confused. Sex with someone you barely know can only be considered lust or infatuation, because you don't know enough about this person to truly love them (unconditionally).
Sex with someone you know and have time to bond with CAN be love during sex because you are sharing such an intimate moment with someone you genuinely care for.
I don't know your reasons for wanting to separate emotions from sex unless you're sleeping with people too early to know them and they keep breaking your heart when they leave. If this is the case, then you really must be able to better control the amount of time that passes before giving yourself to someone.
If you view sex as the peak moment where love just flows all around, you're only hurting yourself by giving in and allowing people that don't feel the same way to have casual sex with you.
If the reason you want to be able to have sex without feeling emotion is because you're not ready for a relationship and are just trying to have fun, but your emotions get in the way, well, maybe it's time to take a break.
I've had several problems over the past couple years regarding the same thing. After someone I loved left me, I wanted to have casual sex, but my emotions kept making me feel like I loved these people because I wasn't ready for love to leave me, and I was trying desperately to replace it. Similarly, before I met this person, it was very easy for me to have sex without any emotion because I didn't WANT the love.
If you're trying to find love, sex will not help you. That's what I've come to realize. If you're trying to start a meaningful relationship you need to put more time between meeting and finally having sex. Wait till you both get to the breaking point. The sex will be more meaningful, and if a guy is willing to wait that long, he probably has more interest in you than just sex. Along the way, he will get to know you well enough and can decide on his own if waiting for sex is worth it.
I hope that helps some. Hopefully, I went in the right direction with that because I didn't really understand what the purpose of the question was trying to cover. Anyway, take care.
2007-03-31 13:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by firecoral417 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and sex these are two different things
Affection about other person will lead to sex and love is the thing which you have to understand from your inner feelings and not from attraction
so you should always try to differentiate between these two things
2007-03-27 19:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by rockycold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million) are not getting love puzzled with interest.. interest devoid of dedication is plenty o.ok. in spite of if, love devoid of dedication isn't. 2) of course you're there every time he comes to a decision he needs to work out you... and then he tells you what you want to take heed to.. You of course see the development. Is he relatively Mr. precise? or merely the single guy you are able to no longer tame? 3) Sorry to assert this my costly yet you're being performed. Been there. you are able to desire to compliment what this is you want and if this is marriage and infants pass on because of fact the two one among you're actually not on that web site. in case you merely desire to attend around for this guy to return see you next time this is o.ok. too. Do it with interest, no longer love.
2016-12-19 15:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by licht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think the time you manage to seperate sex, from emotion, you not only demean the act itself, but allow for a loophole in your concious.
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2007-03-27 19:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by haulin_arse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, maybe if you stop seeing that person a lot or go out with other guys, might help but can't guarantee it...i'm kinna in the same situations, and yeah seeing other guys still doesn't help me, maybe we need someone that can totally change us and make us forget the guy that we are involve with....
2007-03-27 19:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the same to me also....sex and emotion with the right person, is some how connected to each other.,its my opinion...I don't know with others.
2007-03-27 19:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant sorry, emotions lead to sex, and sex leads to emotions
2007-03-27 19:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by Modus Operandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what i do and visualize it in your head so only you know what is going on
2007-03-31 18:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by Inugurl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dunno
2007-03-27 19:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by Emo Kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋