I have caught my daughter in two separte lies in the last 24 hours. The thing is she was lying about things she would not even be in trouble for. I just don't get it. When I asked her about the lies and why she did it she just says I don't know. Anyone with any experiance with this?
2007-03-27 19:00:16 · 9 answers · asked by almostready 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As far as I know, most kids lie for one reason or another at one time or another or for whole phases of their childhood. They lie because they don't want to "hear about it" even if they won't get in trouble. They lie because they like to engage others in a fantasy. They lie because they don't want someone else to get in trouble, be asked to do something, or for any number of other reasons.
If you don't believe what she says I think you should just say, "I'm not able to believe what you're telling me right now." That will let her know you don't believe her without making her feel horrible about lying (because - if she's a normal, decent, kid who has a conscience - she probably already feels horrible about not being able to be honest).
She knows why she lied. She just cannot tell you because she doesn't feel comfortable enough telling you why.
I used to lie to my parents because I "had to" for whatever reason, depending on the circumstances. Not only did I weave that tangled web, but I was frought with guilt and shame over the fact that my parents left me no choice but to lie (or so I thought). When I got to be about 11 or 12 I decided I would never, ever, lie again about anything because I hated the tangled web and guilt. From that time on I became about the most honest person you could ever imagine.
When I had my own children I'd tell them that I couldn't believe what they had told me because I wanted them to know their lies didn't fly. I tried, though, to let them also know that I understood that kids lie and that one of the things about growing up is to get mature enough to be able to always tell the truth. I didn't want them to feel like they had "permanent black marks on their soul", the way I had been made to feel while I was in my lying phase. I wanted my own kids to know that all people make mistakes of one sort or another, all people do things wrong, and all people at times have trouble controlling an urge to lie or do some other wrong thing - and just because they were human they should not feel as if their souls were permanently blackened.
2007-03-27 19:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you and also you relatively are supposed for eachother and near at age, he'll take delivery of you. You mentioned you realize him for two weeks now... two weeks isn't such a lot... Tell him now :) . Or inform him while you meet eachother in individual. Did you meet him but? Don't fear approximately it, it'll pop out finally (your age), earlier than, or once you meet him. You'll realize while is the proper time to inform him. But do not fear an excessive amount of and believe woo so much, in view that it isn't so most important to unfastened sleep over it. Good good fortune!
2016-09-05 18:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 10 year old daughter who is just the same.
My 14 year old son does not.
They were both brought up with "you will be in more trouble for a lie than the truth." I don't know why she does it. My younger sister was just the same.
2007-03-27 19:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lolipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grand daughter does this also. I hate to say it but it tickles me with some of the stuff she comes up with. I don't think you have anything to worry about as long as she knows the difference and is not lying when things are serious. If you are serious about something and she knows you are and then tell a lie it is time to have a talk with her about it.
But don't worry too much it is probably just a phase they are going through.
2007-03-27 19:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by edj009 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'd explain that even little lies are unacceptable,that any lie will get her into trouble, tell her there will-be no liers in your house,being a liers is worse than-anything she could do.tell her that when she lies, it makes you drought her and wonder if you could ever trust her?make it a big big deal, and let her know it will not be tolerated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 19:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to deal with this problem now. even though its no big deal now you need to understand that if this keeps up there will be a time when she will be lying about serious stuff. stop her in her tracks now while you still have a chance.
2007-03-27 19:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by hottie hot hot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's not pulling the wool over your eyes, when you were her age you told the same lies.
2007-03-28 00:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u'll have to have serious talk with her coz maybe she wants a bit of attention and a little TLC from you.
2007-03-27 22:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Evertongrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit her down and gently tell her the scoop. Tell her that if she keeps doing it , God will make sure that all liars will be fryers.
2007-03-27 19:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋