Does A Persons Behavior Change When Diagnosed With Cancer?

Question

My girlfriend has just been told for the fifth time her cancer is back. For the past few weeks, I have seen a side to her I have never seen before. She has become a drinker, and would rather drink and spend her time with other drinkers than me. Is this normal, and is there anything I can do to get her back on track?

Answer 1

when i was told about my cancer I was scared to death and didn't want my husband to go through the fear of loosing me so I became very distant and down right mean to him hoping he would say good bye and not have to see me go through it and maybe not care either that way he wouldn't hurt so much. I know it was a dumb thing to do to him but that is what my brain came up with to distance him from me . Maybe she is doing the same thing. My husband sat me down and reassured me that we would go through this together and it didn't matter how long it would be ,but he loved me and was going to stay by my side if I wanted him or not. He is the love of my life and I am so glad that he did that for me.
If you love her tell her and stay by her side no matter what. she is worth it and so are you

Answer 2

well, actually normal is not the best term to use; but anyway, her actions are telling you what she's thinking.

how would you feel if it was you? fearful, no doubt, as cancer back for the 5th time would doubtless leave you feeling like your life is not under control. she may be using the alcohol to anesthesize her fears, and you may be a reminder of how much she has to lose. this might be a short term reaction; she is going through a grieving process, having lost her hope of being free of cancer yet again.

this is more about her than about the two of you. you would probably be smart to find a counselor to help guide you through this time so that you can be a better support to your girlfriend. and you need to realize that you cannot "get her back on track" and that what you mean by this may well be impossible. you may, however, be able to give her much comfort and enjoy her companionship for a long, long, time.

blessings to you both,
cryllie

Answer 3

One of the symptoms of cancer is depression, and it seems your g/f has it in spades. Show her this, because it's real.

Five hundred years ago, people said the world was flat. Today, people say that if the FDA and AMA haven't blessed something, it can't be real good. Well, here's something I know to be real AND good. It's a little different take on cancer treatment--

In 1990, I had Hodgkin's Lymphoma, stage 3-B, but I've survived. My doctors were great people, but they were limited to surgery, chemo and radiation by profitable AMA treatment policy. During the year in treatment, I started learning about alternative medicine. I'm a retired engineer, and this is what I've pieced together--our IMMUNE SYSTEMS become weakened by poor nutrition, lack of exercise and reduced oxygen. Once that happens, our body becomes vulnerable to common STRESSORS. Stressors can be environmental, like viruses, heavy metals, pesticides, food additives, electromagnetic waves or pollution. They can be internal things like emotional or job stress, or poisonous people in our lives. Aging is also a contributing factor. So this means:

WEAK IMMUNE SYSTEM + STRESSORS = DISEASE (cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc.)

Our bodies have 60 trillion--yes, trillion--cells, and there are always some mutating into cancer cells, but a healthy immune system kills them before they have a chance to get a foothold in the body.

It takes a LONG time, usually, or a high level of stressors, to weaken the immune system to the point where it won't do its job, but once cancer has formed, it will generally spread rapidly.

THIS IS IMPORTANT! There are ways to BEAT cancer that are currently being used in Europe and around the world, and there are some great books on the subject. I know because I've read about 50 of them from cover to cover. Here's a list of the best ones. Some are out of print and getting hard to find--

"The Cure for All Cancers", ISBN 0963632825
"The Cure for All Advanced Cancers", ISBN 1890035165
"A Cancer Therapy", ISBN 0882681052
"Oxygen Therapies", ISBN 0962052701
"Hydrogen Peroxide--Medical Miracle", ISBN 1885236077
"The Natural Cure for Cancer--Germanium", ISBN 0533071410
"Killing Cancer", ISBN 0705000966
"Natural Cures 'They' Don't Want You to Know About", ISBN 0975599518

I know of people whose cancer has 'spontaneously remitted' (WENT AWAY for no known reason) AFTER they went on programs of herbs and nutrition to restart their immune systems.

You and your family must look out for yourselves to stand a chance of being healthy. This is not a joke, and I'm not selling anything--just trying to help.
I am using the things I learned in those books right now to fight off a second infestation of cancer. I've been at it for over a year now, and think I'm going to make it. Use what works for you, and pass on your success. Best of luck.

AMA AND FDA--
The American Medical Association (AMA) and the pharmaceutical companies control medical law and the FDA in this country with heavy lobbying and a revolving door policy. WHY would they want to do this? It's about the money. In 2006, medicine (doctors, hospitals, researchers and pharmaceutical firms) received 2.1 TRILLION dollars--15% of the total earnings (GNP 13.7 trillion) in the U.S. This is astounding! It means MILLIONS of people worked the whole year just to pay the nation's medical expenses!! That's totally astounding, and just too big to care about individuals.

Watch the film at this website--
http://www.altcancer.com/vidgal.htm#hoxsey

Answer 4

Okay, you are saying she knows she is fighting Cancer,
and might die and you want to know if she has had a behavior modification. Do you think so...She running scare
and you are needed to support her.Yes, it changes everything when you are told you have cancer.Get educated on all of her Medical History and be there for her.Console her,nurture her,spend everyday as if it could be your last.

Answer 5

Hmm.. usually cancer makes epople value life more, not waste away in alcohol. It's clear that she is depressed, and deppression leads to drinking, If the cancer is serious, she could be in deep deppression about dying. I would suggest you try to spend more time with her and make sure she is in a happy environment. Good Luck, Kt

Answer 6

really no its her life to live out as she wonts to and this is the way she has choosen