me and my newly fiance are having a hard time thinking of a way to tell our families we're engaged.
i'm really afraid everyone will say we haven't been together long enough (we've been together 7 months) and disapprove
but i really do love him and he really loves me and we've both proven that to each other so i really don't think the time matters.
does anyone have any suggestions
2007-03-27 18:44:29 · 12 answers · asked by theprez32 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The actual words you say aren't too important. Just a simple, "Mom, Dad, we're getting married" will do just fine.
What matters is HOW you say it. Stand straight, hold his hand, and put a big smile on your face. Say it confidently and happily. Don't let anything about your delivery sound unsure or questioning, or they'll most definately take that as a sign to butt in.
If you've been confident and they still say things about you not knowing each long enough, remember to stay calm. Do not argue or cry. Just say "I appreciate that you want to look out for me. I know you love me and only want the best for me. But I know that this decision IS what is best for me, and I hope that you'll support us." Leave it at that.
Getting married means that this man is the most important relationship you have with another person. You do have to be prepared to choose him over your family (or you aren't ready to be married). It must not matter to you that they disapprove. Hopefully they won't, but if they do, just walk away.
2007-03-28 03:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family may not support you at first, but if he is a really great guy and your family really loves you....then they will come around to accept it. In fact I am in the same boat! I went off to Europe to work as a nanny and now I am engaged with a guy whom I have been going out with for a month :P
Things like this happen and when you know...you know. This is supposed to be a fun time, so don't stress out! (Save that for when the wedding is coming up) Sit back and enjoy, and if the family doesn't aggree....then they don't aggree. This is your life and you need to be happy, so be happy.
2007-03-28 03:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Maria D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't really matter, just as long as you two are happy, but if you really want their approval....
Have your parents even met your fiance? If not, of course they are going to be a little shocked. But if they have met him, and they like him, then it shouldn't be a problem.
My advice would be to tell just your parents first and have a little sit down and tell them. If they're going for it, then normally your parents will tell the rest of the family before you do. But if they're not going for it, you can say "We know its a little sudden but we're confident that this is the right way to go" or something like that.
2007-03-28 01:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both over 18 and paying for your own car, house, etc, then it really doesnt matter if they disapprove. Just come right out and say "i have great news, i am marrying the love of my life and i hope you will be as happy for me as i am!"
2007-03-28 01:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by jkl_eavitt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are right about having those feelings. You haven't been together long enough. Wait til you are together about 18 months, and your families get to know each other.
2007-03-28 07:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them(your parents), just like you married the love of your life, I am going to do the same! We're Engaged!!!!
2007-03-28 08:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by alyssa27marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from someone with experience. Just tell them, It hurts like hell to walk around loving someone and not being able to tell the world. My fiance and I were engaged and his parents did not know about it. I walked around wearing a ring and everything. He was to scared to tell his parents. It hurt me. When we did tell his parents they went balistic. We got married anyways, now they don;t know were married. It is eating away at me inside to the point where I even doubted marrying him. Hes a great guy though and were going to tell them. Please tell them and dont let their opinions make you lose the love of your life.
2007-03-28 02:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by misso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys be honest and tell them that this is your choice and would like their blessing. Besides this is your life and need to respect it. Bottom line they r gonna find out sometime
2007-03-28 01:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell your parents. And you ask your fiance to come over and meet your parents and he should ask for their "blessing"... you must be up front about this, your parents deserve the respect.
2007-03-28 02:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Tinribs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're mature enough to make this decision to get married, then be mature enough to deal with your families. Otherwise, you would just be proving their point.
2007-03-28 07:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Karen? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋