should i stay away from this guy...??? PLEASE ANSWER!?

Question

so this guy and i have become good friends.. and he has liked me for a long time i guess.. we've been on like 3 dates.. but after our first one he stood me up.. because he said he didn't like me like that anymore and that he liked some girl that lives in a different state. so i was like okay.. and was a little hurt about it and all. but so Then lately he wrote me and explained everything.. and i guess all of a sudden realized he still liked me Too. but he didn't know what to do about it... and he told me he would tell me who he chose today, but he never did. but we went on a date tonight and he told me he has manic bipolar disorder (just when we were talking..) and so should you stay away from a guy who is not emotionally stable like this..?? i don't know if i can handle his ups and downs so drastically. anyone Know anything about that disorder either that can explain more fully for me? and i don't know if i really like him like That as much anymore due to the feeling of him using me..

Answer 1

Kick him to the curb, you can do much better.

Answer 2

As a woman you should have pride and should strive to be every man's first choice, you're not a product on the store shelf to be compared to someone else. Bipolar disorder is most commonly know as manic depression. Symptoms: severe mood swings involving both depression and mania. Someone with this disorder may have inflated self esteem, decreased need for sleep, extreme need and pressure to talk, extremely short attention span, excessive engagement in pleasurable activities (with potentially damaging consequences). If he doesn't exhibit any of these symptoms (unless he's on meds for this disorder) then he's probably a liar. If he in fact has this disorder, you should probably reconsider dating him as it will be very stressful and something you'll have to get used to for as long as you are together.

Answer 3

u have a feeling that he uses u.then ask him directly wether he likes u or not.u say he has maniac bipolar disorder.take him to a physcriartist .u too take counselling on how to handle person who is emotionally not stable.don't feel bad that iam saying like this.as far as my concern having medical attention is the best thing.keep aside ur relation for a few days and as a friend try to find a cure for him.ur care will make ur relation stronger.human relations & emotions r based on love & care that r between two persons.be happy & always smile. laughing will reduce ur tensions & can make u develope a better & great relation.if u want to leave his relation then leave as a good friend because he will be just relieving from his mental condition.don't feel bad that i said like this.all the best.hope u'll like my idea.

Answer 4

Hi stay away from him or you will end up on an emotional roller coaster, he has already let you down so many times when he said he liked other girls in different states he let you down has gone to them found out they wernt for him then hes come back to you which he will do that to you all the time you are someone he falls back on , you dont need this he is not for you move on and forget about him he will only hurt you again and again , good luck

Answer 5

Why are you low down your standard and let him be he one make the decision? Do not let any one to treat you like that. And why you want to be with someone who has manic bipolar disorder? You should build up your self esteem and love yourself before fall in love with someone else. Good luck

Answer 6

If you don't know if you can handle his ups and downs, then that's a no right there. If you're this unsure, I wouldn't go for it, it has to feel right. Plus, guys who are emotionally unstable can just drag you right down with them, I know from experience. I mean not to sound mean, but there's probably someone out there better suited to handle his emotions, because it doesn't sound like you want to. So yeah, stay away.

Answer 7

Ok, if he's telling the truth about having manic bipolar disorder, you'll never be completely happy with him (more than likely.)

If he's lying about it, then he's trying to mess around with your head. Using that as an excuse is pathetic. Sounds to me like he's waiting on someone better, but you'll do in the meantime. Don't be someone's sloppy seconds!

Good luck sweetheart and be careful.

Answer 8

He sounds like a flake... move on to a guy who is more respectful. Most bipolar cases are excuses for people being flaky and having temper issues, but the drug companies needed to sell more drugs so they came up with this bipolar disorder crap.

Answer 9

my answer is are you willing to have to deal with his ups and downs and when the ups are in play he has alot of energy and is real happy and it seems that nothing can get him down and thats a good thing but-----when he is down i mean he is down and theres nothing you could say or do that will get him out of this state until the meds kick in and he wants to come out of his down. i know this because my neighbor has bipolar and one time he said something to me and i had just got off of work and i was real tired so i did'nt answer him to nice and he looked at me in a way i was not comfortable and i changed my tone of voice and he came back to being nice so you have to be sure they are taking there meds cause if they don't they can have a break down and you don't want to be around them cause they can be unpredictable. so my answer is no. and be careful how you are around him.

Answer 10

Drop him like a hot potato! If he doesn't know what he wants then how are you supposed to know? It's never fair to treat someone poorly just because you don't know what to do. If he can't be serious and straightforward in the beginning, then imagine things down the road when and if it becomes serious.

Answer 11

Oh, I feel for you... I do. No one likes feeling second-best, or like they are waiting in the wings or are disregarded in terms of their emotions, or simply having to deal with someone's issues.

You have already made up your mind... but you suffer from what most emotionally mature people do - you are evolved enough to be kind to help him through something that is not his fault (bipolar disorder) and like him to accept him as he is without judgment; YET, you feel hurt/disrespected, as if his disorder has become some sort of crutch/excuse justification for how he treats you.

First let me say that, I understand you very well. I suffer from this scenario, too. But bottom-line, you need to take care of yourself, your heart, your spirit. My personal feeling is that, if his manic bipolar disorder is emotionally and psychologically draining NOW, imagine what it would be for you if you had to deal with this full-time.

Disorder completely aside...........and taken totally out of the equation, let's deal with facts.

The fact is, he specifically said to you that he didn't like you 'that way' anymore. Do you want to be with someone who doesn't care enough about you and treats you this way?

You deserve to be with someone who likes you for YOU, as you are. If you like him as he is, disorder and all, to even care enough to post a question on Yahoo Answers, because you want to learn more about his disorder, don't YOU DESERVE someone who accepts and likes you to the degree you care about them? I say "YES" - YOU DO! You deserve to be appreciated and liked just as you are, because you are wonderful and deserve to be loved by someone who cares about YOUR feelings, just as much as they care about their own, confused or indifferent or otherwise.

I say, move onward. It doesn't make you the bad person, he's the bad person for cheating on his girlfriend who lives in a different state. She deserves truth and honesty and faithfulness, and he's not being that. If he cheats on her, he would probably also cheat on you.

You deserve better!!!

Good luck! Peace and blessings to you!