how can people see how smart i am-how can i show them?

Question

at my work people (this guy in particular) think i am really dumb and i wish they knew all the accomphlishments i have done- iam also stronger than they think-they laugh or say "you can't handle being a server " and i am like "excuse me" you dont know me at all.they dont know what i have been through-they act like serving is rocket science or something.

Answer 1

Yeah, I feel you...sometimes us servers "eat" our young. I refrain from it, because I remember how it was in the beginning and a kind gesture was so appreciated. But I digress, in order to show your smart, don't let them know that they bother you. Serving isn't a tough job "per se", but it does take thick skin, multi-tasking and quick thinking. And the "lifers" as I like to call them, take their job VERY seriously...it's pretty funny actually. If you want to stoop to their level, which I don't suggest...just say, "whatever, lifer"...that is you saying that he won't amount to much beyond this serving job...he's just a lifer in this field--meanwhile you are moving on to bigger and better things. Just be clever, quick on your feet and kind of a smart-*** and you will do just fine. :o)

Answer 2

Ok, start with eliminating the word "like" from your vocabulary. It's so high school. Next, start improving your intelligence by reading. Read something hard, something that isn't a romance novel. Read the newspaper or watch the nightly news, so that you can discuss things that are happening in the world. If you begin your shift by saying, "Did you see what happened in Iraq today" people will start taking you seriously. Develop some opinions about news, and not just fashion news or what's happening with Anna Nicole. Also try learning a new word every day and use it: go to www.dictionary.com for help. As for lifting, start doing push-ups, and when you can do a lot of men's style pushups, challenge some people at work. If you beat them, or even keep up, they'll believe you're strong.

Answer 3

Well, your behaviour and speech styles are important when it comes to determining how intelligent someone is, whether or not that is fair or not. For example, I don't know you, but from the way you wrote your question, I would think you were not very smart. In reality you may have an IQ of 150, but all I have is what you wrote to go on, and it's not a very good impression.

You could also appear smart by reading books, keeping up with the news, learning a foreign language etc.

Answer 4

Probably improving your speech patterns would help. You sound young and I know that's hard time among older people, know-it-alls. Been there, done that. I was a server once, they called us waitresses then, and I learned so much from my patrons as well as the old guard, bartenders with bad feet who taught me about fine wines, old servers taught me about laying a proper dining table and how to treat the snottiest of eaters. You know what you've accomplished, just be proud and move on. Serving isn't rocket science, its an art.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

i absolutely hate when people underestimate you...i get that frequently (i am small and look younger than my age so people are shocked when they find out i'm a college graduate...)

i was once a server and we got slammed unexpectedly after everyone but me had been cut...i was behind on getting some mixed drinks at the bar when a lady told me that i wasn't "cut out" to be a waitress and i needed to find a new career (i told her that i didn't go to college to wait tables the rest of my life and basically that she could shove it...i quit the next day...sometimes it's just not worth it!!!)

sometimes people are just bitter...(myself included :) ) don't waste your time trying to prove a point that is lost on others...

Answer 7

Give up trying to show them what you already know you are. Consider these people already see you as a person quite smart! It is natural for people to hate, poke fun, spawn trouble to others they see as good (smart)! "When you're good people dislike you". Just get that. Now if your up for witnessing just how powerful you really are, I dare you to try this. When someone pokes fun, acknowledge who the person is to you. Example: "you can't handle being a server" respond with acknowledgement of who they are to you as a server. Example: "who you are to me is someone who demonstrates control handling all the demands of being a server, how do you do this?" I guarantee, this person will be left moved, touched or inspired from simply HEARING what all people crave ACKNOWLEDGEMENT. Be fearless and let people know who they are to you! Most important, understand you must be truthful about acknowledgement of another and it does not need to be enormous, extrodinary, unexpected etc., Get that people crave to hear what we never say. Examples: "who you are to me is a person respected by customers". "I like the way you tackled that customer matter". "you are busting *** tonight, what's your secret?" "did I thank you for showing me, letting me, helping me etc." "I like the way you do this, handle that, etc., any pointers for me?" "I like working with you because...." "with your experience, how should I....?"
There are a billion ways to make someone's day by simply acknowledging them. I dare you to try it!

Answer 8

One shouldn't really exclaim about their accomplishments, your accomplishments should speak for you. The moment when one does that it sends mixed signals to your receiver, chances are that they might react positively or negatively. We should all try to be the best that we can be without other people's approval. I owe no one an explanation for who I am and they don't owe me one either. Let's appreciate the power inherent within us.

Answer 9

Oh my, you need not to show off just to let them know you are smart. If you are smart, you are smart. Be secured! Accomplish things that may surprise him, not minding his underestimating of you. In the end, you will win.

Your too much reaction would mean immaturity. And it's childish being too much affected. Let them be what they are. If you know yourself, you're secured, need not prove to them that you are smart.

Answer 10

My opinion is that intelligence is relative. We've all experienced different lives which lead us to different ways of problem solving and drawing conclusions based on our experiences. To me words like "smart" and "stupid" are just words people use to feel better about themselves by belittling others. These people you work with will always have their own opinion as to what they think "smart" is (and it's usually anyone who agrees with them). I wouldn't recommend trying to change your co-workers. It would be easier just to try change how you deal with their perspective, perhaps, by not letting what they think of you affect what you think of yourself.