Why do some people think that gay people can change to not be gay??

Question

I know I absolutely love women - love their bodies, their smell, everything! I never made a decision to do this, it was just there. So it must be the same for gay people. So why do some people, especially the extremely religious, think it's a decision that people have made? My sister had a gay friend who told her that if he could have had a choice, he would have chosen not to be gay, just because of how difficult his life has been.

Answer 1

Some people do not want to believe anything that is not usual. They refuse to inform themselves. I am not gay, but I have gay friends. From everything I have learned, it appears to be a genetic predisposition.

I have never met a gay person that did not feel differently as a child. Most gay people were not raised by gay parents. Therefore, what they were feeling as children had to be something that was not learned. On the other hand, I know someone that was raised by lesbian parents that is totally straight.

If the average person took the time to become informed about the gay community, they would realize this.

Answer 2

Being gay is like being left-handed. Some people are born left-handed. It used to be taught in schools that left-handed people had to learn to work right-handed. The theory was that since the world was made for right-handed people, the lefties would be "left out" (which is where the expression came from). Gradually the lefties came to be accepted and the condition was considered not a choice but a matter of birth. The same with sexual orientation. I didn't choose to be heterosexual, I was born that way. I have gay friends who were born "that way". And you're absolutely right, society has made it tough for gays, on and off throughout history. But gradually I like to think we're learning. Let's hope so.

Answer 3

It's against their religions to tolerate gay people.

I don't think it's a decision. I don't think it's a spiritual affliction. Why? Because people who do treat it like a decision and a spiritual afflicition end up going crazy and either molest children or chop people up into little bits.

I say, let them be gay.

Answer 4

its because people think they need to justify what is not "normal" or atleast normal for them and they r stuck in there own thoughts instaed of listening to others and here it how it is i think it is bs the way people r like that too i have many gay friends and it shouldnt even b about what sex the feel atracted to anyway it should b if the person is a good person in general

Answer 5

They just refuse to believe the facts. Your situation is not a choice. No more than someone can change their natural hair color, or height. Some are just born that way but you will not change them, so go on with your life and ignore them.

Answer 6

ive always wondered the same thing. gays (love,hate, bleed, and cry) just like everyone else. if God made us all then what do the religious people say to answer that. i see anything wrong with it.

Answer 7

because it is more open in society now than it used to be say 50 years ago, back then people who were gay did not announce it

Answer 8

because some people are ignorant and scared. If it is a decision it can't happen to them or their family. If it is something a person is born to be, the they can't control it.

Answer 9

me personally. i dont think ppl can choose if they are straight, bi, or gay. i guess some ppl just arent willing to accept the fact that a friend or someone they know is gay.

Answer 10

because people are stupid. they dont understand that being gay is NOT a choice. they think that it is wrong and they try to "fix" a problem that isnt there. honestly people are stupid and stubborn and im not saying that because i am gay. I AM STRAIGHT!