Hey everybody well I am 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now, we both are attending college and I really couldnt ask for anybody to treat me better. We have a 10 month old daughter and have plans for the future (getting married). Everything has been really good we basically have a married lifestyle without the ring, well he is really musically skilled and he prduces beats for upcoming artists and makes good money doing but recently he wanted to be honest with me and old me that he have begun smoking whenever he is with th guys. When he told me i had to leave our house for day because it hit me so hard. We grown up together and he was always the one against smoking and drinking. I feel like its not him. How do i handle this? Its really hitting me hard emotionlly i just fell apart. My dad was a big smoker and recently quit an he adviss me to let him be and just set boudaries like no smoking in the hous or around my daughter. How do i handle my emotions w/ this?
2007-03-27 18:08:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
While it is a personal decision to smoke, this decision effects the people around you whether you want it to or not. The chemicals from the cigarettes are very bad for the baby (even if he does not smoke around her, unless he washes up all the time some chemicals will cling to his skin) health wise AND as an example. Children who have parents that smoke are much more likely to smoke themselves.
Sit him down and talk about it. Ask him the questions that are on your mind (it helps to write it down so your mind doesn't go blank when talking) and LISTEN. Suggest things that he could do instead, and assure him that you will help him to quit and will be supportive!
2007-03-27 18:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well my husband and I met when we were 18, he didn't tell me at first that he smoked, but whe I realized, I told him that I don't go out with guys that smoke. He said he would quit. Long story short, it took a while, but we've been married 10 years now and he doesn't smoke. And I don't think my opinion had much to do with it. I think that he eventually realized that he wanted to be around for his kids....
2007-03-31 22:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by PAJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with your father....let him be, but talk to him and let him know that for the sake of the baby that you don't want any smoking in the house or around the baby. and instead of falling apart...my goodness child...all he is doing is smoking...he didn't kill someone or rob a store...there are worse things than smoking a cigarette...you are going to have to learn to put up with it...and maybe a few years down the line he will give it up....i hope so...i did in Jan. of this yr. and i feel so much better.
2007-03-28 01:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious? at first i thought you were referring to smoking weed. of it's an occasional smoke then let it be. ignore the chick about chemicals sticking to the hands. just let it go, and learn to pick and choose your battles
2007-03-28 01:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Chrystopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boundries are good.
2007-03-28 01:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋