My best friend Robert is very shy and quiet...not really outgoing but great once you get to know him. I am a hug kinda girl...they can fix anything or brigthten up someone's day. He has hugged me three times, but each was when I was very upset. He has not hugged except when I am extremly upset, but I want him to hug me outside of when I am hurting. I asked him if I could have a hug for my birthday when we were talkin' via text message...he never answered and we had this big thing over something later that day. I don't know if it is me or he is shy or what...I want him to hug me, but I don't want to make him uncomfortable. I care for him deeply because he is my best friend in the world and I really don't know what I would do without him. I am trying to learn to sacrifice and be what he needs me to be, so I don't know what to do.
2007-03-27 18:07:24 · 8 answers · asked by GodsGrl4Real 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gesture for him to hug you.
2007-03-27 18:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was taught that holding a girls body was wrong, and the only place you could touch a girl was on her shoulders or arms. It was probably an issue of his upbringing.
I personally like hugging, as it shows the other person that you like them, and enjoy being with them.
A real friend will give you a hug, if you ask them, because to some, it is like a handshake. I would rather a girl give me a hug, than a handshake, anyday. It feels good, and gets you both off to a great start.
2007-03-28 02:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't like hugs. I am a girl and I just feel uncomfortable with people hugging me and me hugging them. Don't push your friend to hug you. It might make him more uncomfortable and if you really are best friends I don't think you need to hug each other to strengthen your friendship.
2007-03-28 01:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by thefacade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you consider that it's not shyness but that he has stronger feelings for you and he's afraid if he hugs you - you might see through that - that being standoffish is easier because he can't get hurt or rejected since he's being blase and casual about you?
2007-03-28 01:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by jbelkin800 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep giving him some more hugging experience lol. I used to be that kinda guy
2007-03-28 01:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hugging as always felt awkward and forced to me, so its not really a guy thing, I think its more to do with up bringing. maybe he just dosnt know when its appropriate, so if you keep trying he might get more relaxed with it.
2007-03-28 01:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just not a very affectionate person. My ex was like that. Hey, it happens. Either accept him for how he is (and not what you want him to be) or find yourself a more "huggy-type" of guy.
2007-03-28 02:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Back off
2007-03-28 01:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by uuummk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋