Should I do it or not ? .?

Question

Im 14 years old [guy] im dating a 15 year old girl . i love her a lot . but she wants to have sex . and part of me wants to do it with her, but the other part doesn`t . should I do 'it' with her, or should I just tell her that I don`t think im ready yet . ? . thanks in advance .

im just confused .

Answer 1

Dont do it if you are not ready...if you are scared then that is normal though.

Answer 2

Of course tell her you are not ready for that. The answer would be the same for a girl asking the same question. Sex is dangerous because once you have created a life, you are a parent! Do you want to be a parent at 14? Your 15 year old friend may not even care - think it's just something that might happen - but you have to be extremely responsible using protection if you do have sex and even condoms are not 100% effective protection. The girl should be on birth control pills - would she feel comfortable if you called her doctor and made an appointment to discuss her birth control because this plan she has might involve using your sperm to create a life? Ha. I didn't think she'd like that idea. Trouble is, a girl who is that aggressive doesn't need to be truthful about birth control - she can simply act like she knows more about this than she does - and you won't know what exactly the true risk is. Tell her to backl off; you like dating her but maybe she and you are a mismatch - and see what she says. You should be ready to find another girl friend.

Answer 3

I would say that if you are only 14 years old then the answer is no you have your life ahead of you and at 14 and 15 you are not old enough to make that decision. A lot of responsibly come with having sex. You are still a child just enjoy dating and spending time with the other sex and don't let no one pressure you into having sex if you don't want to. Just try and tell the girl that she need to wait until you both are more responsible for yourself. Before you make the decision to have sex.

Answer 4

I think you are both too young to have sex, even though it seems that everyone is having sex at your age. You are wise to realize that you really aren't ready for it. You are doing the right thing by sticking to your guns, and telling her the truth.
Maybe not now, but in the future she'll actually be grateful that you didn't use her just to have sex.

And remember, there are so many things that can happen by having sex--pregnancy, STD's, guilty feelings, regret, physical pain, etc. Are you both ready and able to deal with all these potential consequences ?

When you are both older and ready, or you meet the special lady with whom you "make love", it will be so special and beautiful. You'll be glad you waited, and shared your love with her. You'll always look back with cherished memories.

Answer 5

Do you feel ready for sure?? You have to look at all aspects of it and figure out what you want to do. Maybe write down the pros and cons. Do not do it if your not ready, frankly 14 isnt really old enough to be makeing that decision, it can cause alot of emotional problems in the future for the both of you. If you decide to do this you should definitly practice safe sex and if she is a virgin then I advise no. You are unexperianced and it may be awkward and painfull for her. I lost my virginity 5 days after my 15th birthday, I am 17 now and I regret it everyday. Regret the feeling of not craveing sex, regret the excitement and definitly regret my choice of partner.

Answer 6

NEVER do "it" if your not ready. your only 14 there is absolutley no need to rush. if you love her then she should love you enough in return to respect the fact that you are not ready. Just be honest with her and tell you that your are not ready. If she can't accept the fact that your not ready then maybe you shouldn't be with her. I hope that things work out good for you. And please dont rush. your young and you dont want to end up regreting your first time trust me plus you have to think about the fact that you could get her pregnant amongst other things.
If your second guessing yourself then your not ready, its that simple.

Answer 7

I applaud you for using common sense. Simply tell her that you're not ready to go there. Lots could go wrong; you could become a dad. Get out and have some fun and get to really know each other. Tell her you have too much respect for her; (and I hope she has enough respect for you to not pressure you). You sound like a great guy. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

ur not ready yet and u shouldnt get pushed into it. i commend u for not being like a lot of guys out there who would just do it for the experience. u sound like a smart guy who knows that sex is something special and should be shared with someone u care about. i would just tell her that ur not ready and if she is willing to wait u will let her know when u are. believe me it will be much more enjoyable if u wait.

Answer 9

fact your asking question in itself and feel uncomfortable means your not ready to have sex take it to that level so straight out tell her how and what you think and feel if she loves u and wants to be with u she will respect how u feel and why if she dont its good u know now and find someone else and move on if its the case

Answer 10

DONT DO IT. if you're still unsure that doesn't mean "oh just go ahead anyway" it means you're not ready. besides..14 is too young to be having sex anyway in my opinion, you have your whole life ahead of you, complete with many more girlfriends along the way..what if one of them means more to you down the road...even more than your current gf does now, you wouldn't be able to share yourself in the same way she would be sharing herself...

Answer 11

Wait. You are too young to be having sex. You should wait until you are old enough to handle the consequences. How would you support a baby at this time?