I will lose my virginity in about two hours. So I have one hour to read your answers please help. I am a 19 year old female, 5'5'' and about 113 lb. He is coming over in 20 minutes I know it's going to happen. PLZ, ladies who are experienced, I know it will hurt, but tell me how can I help to make it enjoyable for both of us? What do I have to know that I might not already know besides protection? I'm not very good with pain, is it supposed to be embarrasing to cry or tear? How can i reduce the pain? Should I stop him if the pain becomes uncontrolable? How will it all start? Any post symptoms? HELP HELP, thanks
2007-03-27 17:57:53 · 31 answers · asked by DIXIE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just do it!
2007-03-27 18:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Are you sure this will happen? I hope you are in love. Make sure you have condoms. Make sure you have a good lube, like KY. Lube is important, it will help everything work better. Stop him if at any time you feel like stopping him for any reason. Frankly, the pain isn't bad at all. Some people experience no pain or just feel a little twinge. If you are really turned on and you use lube, any pain or pinching sensation should be overwhelmed by your emotions, and the physical pleasure. I remember feeling a little pinch but minutes after I went on to experience pleasure. It's a very wonderful feeling. Savor every minute. Make sure it's right for you though. Light candles, put on music, good luck darlin'.
2007-03-28 01:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by batscout 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully this guy knows that you're a virgin. Yes, it can hurt, but it depends on the woman. As for enjoying it--try to ignore the pain, as it does numb after a while. It shouldn't be embarrassing for you if you tear up, because hopefully the guy's not a total dolt. And if the pain becomes unbearable, STOP HIM. It'll suck for him, but your personal well-being is more important than him getting off. As for post-symptoms, there aren't any except for soreness tomorrow. Just relax, and make sure that you spent plenty of time in foreplay--it'll reduce the pain by getting your body ready for sex. Relax, and enjoy! Freaking out won't do anything but stress you out!
2007-03-28 01:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by posesqueen 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarrassed, scared, or even put so much thought into it. Don't worry about whats supposed to happen just do what you feel. Its hard to know what a guy will like. They are all different. But I'm assuming you love him since you are having sex with him. So it should be easy to talk to him and for him to tell you what he wants. If its too painful tell him to stop, It shouldn't be a big deal.
2007-03-28 01:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by CountryGirlygirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uhh i'm not a chick but as a guy, who is also 19, from what i was told, it does hurt for first time girls. I only had sex with 2 girls and the first time hurt them but i always knew not to be too rough and hard. I just usually take it slow. If it hurts too much, stop him. Reducing pain... dont do crazy positions, i'd suggest you stick to missionary position and dont let him go too deep unless you're feeling it... How will it start? Uh... i guess he just goes between your legs and pushes it in slowly.. post symptoms? uhh you might get muscle cramps xD and if it bleeds a bit, maybe stop for a bit... i dunno but that's from a guy's perspective. I'm not a chick but i hope this helps.
2007-03-28 01:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Freeak 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have some lubricant. If you dont well try to relax and be aroused before you let him enter you. It shouldn't be unbearable. I doubt you'd cry. Just try to make it comfortable. You may bleed a little after or a lot so be aware of that. If you are uncomfortable tell him to STOP.
Do you say Good luck for loosing your virginity?????
2007-03-28 01:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by karena k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I don't know much about sex, since I haven't had it yet either, but I do know a lot of people who have, and just to reassure you, I'm pretty sure almost everybody feels nervous and anxious before, and everybody worries about the hurt and such, so I wouldn't listen too much to what other people say, you just have to decide if your ready for yourself. I can't really tell you anything else since I haven't had experience, but good luck!
2007-03-28 01:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by suga_firefly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should do it because you're so worried about it. Since your mind is so focused and concentrated on what'll happen and the pain, you won't be able to enjoy yourself. If you get started and decide that the pain becomes unbearable, it may change your relationship with the person. Think about WHO you're having sex with. If things go downhill, would it be worth it?
2007-03-28 01:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by LuV 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't have to hurt if you're really ready for it. He has to warm you up, make you really excited and wet. If you're worried it will hurt, IT WILL HURT. So relax.
It's not a bad pain, it's an uncomfortable pain. Nothing unbearable. It goes right after it happens.
So relax, make sure he excites you and makes you wet and don't worry about it!
Good luck and have fun! =)
2007-03-28 01:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by can_you_accept_who_i_m 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Please hang on to your virginity. Hold out a little longer and reexamine why you're doing this and whether he is the right one or not. An embarrassing moment of not following through with having sex is nothing compared to what you will be putting yourself through tomorrow. This isn't time.
2007-03-28 01:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by Lyf 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey -- this is supposed to be about love and the only one!! You are clearly not ready for sex. Just say no!
If you are so worried about pain -- then this guy is the WRONG one. Not worth losing your virginity over!
2007-03-28 01:04:28 · answer #11 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋