I have been dating this guy for like 2 years and we are ready to have sex. Im not so sure really what to do..he is my first. Plzz help me and explain for me.
2007-03-27 17:47:59 · 8 answers · asked by Hmm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not knowing how old you are.. this is concerning.. As I'm a parent .
and I have lived and been through much myself.. I do not advocate sex before marriage.. My personal opinion is that if you truly care and love someone you wait.. waiting is respectful.. Real love is about respecting each other.. physically as well.
Love waits, Lusting doesn't.. What is the big hurry with everyone to have sex?.. but, not marry.. That is about truly committing to each other.. are you really ready to make a commitment?
I am happy you have someone in your life who you both seem to have feelings regarding.. but, look deeper inside and exam those true feelings.. Where will they be in 10, 20 , 30 yrs..?
Too many take it to the "NEXT" level so to speak and end up breaking up shortly after.. the excitement, the chase , the conquest and adventure they thought they had is gone all too soon.. Some have even said that having sex before marriage that the Honeymoon night wasn't as exciting , because it didn't have the same "thrill " as first time sex.. too bad even more if lost with someone else, not the new spouse.. I know some people will say i am wrong... but, regrets for lost virginity... can't be undone.
good luck what ever your decisions..
2007-03-27 18:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best tools to use in such a situation is open honestly &trust. Because u going to have to communicate to each other.
Let him know that u ready, then if u want to, buy that sexy underwear to make u feel more confident, &as a women we cant just expect the man to bring the protection, so buy yourself the birth control pills, be prepared.
Make sure there is lots of foreplay, be it dry grinding, kissing, fondeling, u need to be aroused properly and wet (buying lubricant would also be good)......ask him to take his time, to enter u slowly, u need to tell him when its too much for u, relax ur muscles & breath.
Playing background music, or allowing him to talk to u while he is entering u, should take ur conserntration off what he is doing.......(",)
2007-03-28 01:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, is it his first time too?
if it isn't, he should know what to do and even if it is, he should still know what to do.. i'm sure every single male above the age of twelve has watched porn.. or soem sort of porn anyway lols. all you need is to relax.. and go with the flow. if it's your first time i say start of with missionary so he'll do all the work ;) you can lie back and enjoy urself =]
it's going to hurt a bit and you'll most likely bleed but its nothing serious so don't worry. and be prepared !! so lube and condoms !!
2007-03-28 00:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will REALLLLLLLLLLLYYYYYY hurt at first and it will feel like as soon as it goes in you wont want it to come out because it would be toooo painful for it to come out but after a few years of having sex it will start to feel good but when its your first time......i feel sorry for you girl!
2007-03-28 00:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if your not sure that you are ready DON'T DO IT PLEASE. having sex is a big step so make sure you are 200% sure that you are ready.
2007-03-28 00:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by KEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till you are at least 18.
2007-03-28 00:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by God Told me so, To My Face 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think i should post anything but if you want to email me id be willing to help
2007-03-28 00:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by jake c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it if you really wnat this!
2007-03-28 00:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋