I broke up with my bf last Tuesday. He broke up with me in the past, kicked me out, hurt me too much so I did it maybe just for revenge.
He's supposed to visit me this wednesday(we are long distance) but yesterday i found out he cancelled his flight. I never thought he'd do that b/c although i told him not to come he said he would. So i got really upset. B/c i thought we broke up on tuesday and we'll make up on this wednesday.
Now he's not returning my calls and emails. I dont know what to do. I just can't stop crying right now. I just got really really upset the whole day yesterday. So i texted him"i'm very very sad now, can you talk to me?" Still nothing.
I mean, i apologized for like a million times now. I've done everything. Now i think i'm gonna bail b/c i think he's a jerk. I'm not gonna do anything any more.
I mean i guess i still hope he'd come back or there's something i can do, but now he's acting like this...maybe he'll never be back. what do you think?
2007-03-27 17:36:36 · 10 answers · asked by cherbearnew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe his ignoring you or he been on an accident
2007-03-27 17:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have been playing games with him if you really cared about him. Despite the fact of what he's done to you in the past, you can't do things over revenge. He's not being a jerk. He's probably just taking the hint that it's over now and taking your word for it, since you broke it off. Even if he said he'll still come visit, MAYBE he just hit reality, that you told him NOT to. Apologizing doesn't exactly fix things and it won't all be fixed in a day. Everything takes time. Actions speak louder than words. If you want him back, you'll know what to do.
2007-03-28 00:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by LuV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is weird that he told you he would come visit you anyway, and didn't. I think he might be being proud, since you broke up with him and told him you didn't want him to come visit you, he's doing just that. Maybe he's doing what most people recommend in cases like this. Like, if someone dumps you and has hurt you a lot, ignore all the phone calls, e-mails... just get them out of your life, and not let them pull you in again just so they can hurt you more. This is why breaking up shouldn't be taken lightly. You are just hurting each other, and for what? if you still want to be with him...
I think this doesn't really count as him being a jerk, taking in consideration how you treated him. But if he has broken up with you before and treated you way worse, he should at least put himself in your position and remember that you took him back or talked to him when he needed it. I'm assuming you didn't give him this much grief when he broke up with you.
Since you were the one to end it, if you really care, i think you should try to get a hold of him, so you guys can talk. Or at least make sure that he's ok and that what's really going on is that he doesn't want to hear from you again, if that's the case, leave him alone. If he's just being proud, but misses you, he'll come around. I think if he had been the one to break up with you, you should leave him alone and let him miss you. But since you're the one who screwed up, if you give up too easily you will definitely lose him. You should at least try... but make sure that you actually want that, from what you said here it seems that he's not that nice to you anyway.
take care
2007-03-28 00:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling him. Just give him some space. If you two do this type of thing all the time he will most likely call you once he gets past this. (Not that this is a healthy situation for you to be in.)
2007-03-28 00:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by halfamazing_nj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb.........You can do better !! Stop beating yourself up..........apologized a million times ? You will have ups and downs in any relationship. Sounds to me this is his punishment to you, and he wants you to kiss his backside !! The tears are from the lose you fell, you will stop crying..........
Move on....that's my advice and I do understand that its not always easy. I am sure you will do the right thing for yourself.
Wishing you, Happiness, Joy !!
2007-03-28 00:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be better off if he doen't. Things will turn up and life will get back to normal. Give it time. Long distance relationships don't usually last. Sorry.
2007-03-28 00:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act like you dont care. by beggin him to talk to you is probably giving him the reaction he wants. so just ignore him for a couple weeks and things might be back to normal.
2007-03-28 00:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Acting and Dancing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beg and plead, you just ruined the whole revenge thing. Ignore him and make him call you.
2007-03-28 00:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have taken pity on you,so heed my words.
stop-contacting-him.
if he comes back,make him crawl,just a little.if he doesnt...he doesnt.go back to crotch sniffing on myspace.
2007-03-28 00:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should he waste his time and $ on you?? you are ridiculous.
2007-03-28 00:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋