My grandpa was recently diagnosed with advanced stomach/liver cancer, with a prognosis of 4-10 months to live. I just feel at a loss right now. What should I do?
2007-03-27 17:34:12 · 20 answers · asked by Miles P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well you never know if he's going to survive.
think positive.
but start by beginning to accept the fact that he does have cancer and might pass away.
and spend every single moment with him.
2007-03-27 17:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by whatever21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel its important to tell your grandfather all the things you have always wanted to say, hes lucky to have had such a prosperous life having children and grandchildren!
My father has been diagnosed with emphysema and has been given under two years to live, he could have a heart attack and die at any moment. When i first found out from the doctor i couldnt help but cry everyday thinking about it and how sad i will be to lose him, because he wont get to see any grandkids or my first home and every other part of my life that i wanted my dad to be involved in. Now I try to be positive and cherish the limited time we have together, because even though he will be gone one day, i'll still have all my photos and the memories that will last forever.
2007-03-27 17:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, visit with him, enjoy life with him while he is here. Make him laugh. Give him beautiful memories. No one lives forever. The best you can hope for is that you live a full life, a life full of joy and when it is your time, that you will go without much pain. Tell him you love him. Tell him that you will miss him and always remember him. Remind him of precious memories that you share with him.
When we die, we don't take any of the material things we collected while we were here. We take only the beautiful memories of those we loved, the places we visited, the fulfilling experiences we had. When we die, all pain and sorrow are gone. When we die, there is only love. The sorrow exists only in those of us who are left behind, because we miss the person we loved, we miss how they made us feel. Reassure your grandpa that you will always remember and love him. Tell him that you will be okay and that he can leave this earth whenever he needs to. Sometimes, people painfully linger on because they sense or know that the people they love are not emotionally ready to let go.
Lovingly and gently tell him good-bye. You don't have to say those exact words, but somehow let him know. Then, when he is gone, life your life to the fullest extent. Explore and enjoy and take the beautiful memories with you when it is your time to go.
2007-03-27 17:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel my aunt was diagnosed with cancer and they gave her two months but she lived for seven months after her diagnosis it is going to be painful, but spend as much time with him as you can take lots of pictures talk with him try and make him laugh. I kow it hurts because I cry because I miss my my aunt alot. You just have to enjoy the time you have and try not to think about the cancer. I know how hard that it is but you will make it through this difficult time. It's just one of the hard pills in live we have to swallow that we can't change the things we want so just have to make the best of it why you can.
2007-03-27 17:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by hanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray Miles. I understand how you feel. It was my mother diagnosed. No matter what the outcome God is in total control. Pray to Him and give him your heart. Pray with your grandpa and other family. This is the time when you all really need each other. God answers prayers and sends miracles every day.
2007-03-27 17:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by joyfulndiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 21:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the time you have left with him. Dr.'s aren't always correct about these things. Talk to him about all the things you would like to know about. The most important thing I would do is pray. Pray for healing. God works miracles. You and your Grandpa are in my prayers. God bless you both.
2007-03-27 17:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do. If its his time, its his time. You cant change gods plan for him. Spend lots of time with him. Make sure he knows he is loved and in case these are his last few months, make sure he accomplishes everything he wanted to do in life. But think positively, things can always work out for the better.
2007-03-27 17:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by CountryGirlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is spend as much time as you can with him. talk to him and listen to his stories about his life and your family's life. He is your family history book. You will be surprised at how much you learn. Enjoy him while you still can. DOn't be sad i'm sure he lived a great life. You know he'll be in a better place.
2007-03-27 17:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by Honey Luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I found out that my Grampa had cancer I cried for 2 days straight. I was sad that my kids would miss out on the relationship that he and I shared (I was closer to him than my own father) But I tried to enjoy the time we had left...but I still get sad :(
2007-03-31 15:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by PAJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend as much time with him as possible learn everything there is about him. do whatever spend time with him make every moment count he'll only be here a little while longer make sure you use up every ounce of time that you have to be together trust me you'll be happy if you did when he's gone.
ps im so sorry that this happened i hope you get a miracle
2007-03-27 17:39:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋