we've been together for 3 years. we've had many hardships and yet so many good times. i always feel at home with him, that comfortable feeling that's hard to find. i know i'll always love and care about him, but there's so many things that make me question my decision to be with him.
he's always telling me that i'm a ***** (among many other names) and i need to shut up. sometimes he gets so depressed for no reason, it makes me feel awful and he gets mad at me for trying to help. he's so evasive about his feelings and what's going on in his life. i love him so much i just want to help, and he gets mad at me for it. he says i just like to complain and make drama because i'm a woman, but it really hurts me when he treats me like that. it's like he doesn't understand (or doesn't actually realize) what he's doing to me.
how should i deal with these issues, or should i just find someone else? do all men act like that?
2007-03-27 17:29:22 · 19 answers · asked by Kara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didn't even read the full question, cuz any man who calls a women names isn't worth s*** himself.
Just break up with the man.
Love him forever but as a distant memory, but staying with him will only hurt you mentally.
Find a guy who respects your efforts, and doesn't degrade you, and no.....all men don't act like that.
It's unfair to judge ALL men by the actions of a few.
2007-03-27 17:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by moumeeta_star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all of us act like that. I try to treat my girl like a queen. You seem like a very good person, since you are trying so hard to help. You don't deserve to be hurt in such a manner. The guy obviously has no respect for you. I know it's hard to consider leaving him, but that seems to be the best thing for you right now. I know how it is to be in a relationship like that where you get treated badly and get absolutely no respect at all. It hurt like hell when I broke up with her because of all that we shared together, but getting out of that horrible relationship was the best thing to ever happen to me. I thought I would never love again, but I've been with my current girl for over 3 years now and that was longer than my ex. Leave while you can.
2007-03-28 00:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him all you just told us. Give him a little time to change, if he didn't change, break up... You are a sweet lady and he should be thankful for having you, if not there are many out there that are looking for someone like you every second and will appreciate your presence, you can make their lives colorful sweethear. Do not allow any man heart you for any reason
2007-03-28 00:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion you should let time past to see if things have changed but you've been with him for 3 years. That might be a sign for some change and if you do you could probably find some one better like me ha ha just kidding have fun on your decesion and remember its all up to you
2007-03-28 00:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by F3L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No all men do not act like that, some of them do and that includes your man. The nice side of me suggests you talk to him about what he's doing to you and how it makes you feel but the mean side of me says that you've put up with it for too long. There is absolutely no reason for him to call you these names you treat you like this for no reason. To me, it seems like he is wanting some space, maybe you should give it to him
2007-03-28 00:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are like that. your guy seems to really have some emotional problems. he doesnt know how to deal with them in the proper manner and your taking all the blows for it. its time he step up to the plate and get some help. eventually his emotional abuse is gonna take a toll on you and then you wont be in a position to help him at all because you'll be too busy trying to get help for yourself. give this man an ultimatum to get some help or start treating you better(emotionally) other wise i see it best that you leave. you dont deserve that. if he accepts treatment then it would be wise for you to seek help with him because you allow him to abuse you in this manner. you have to find a way to stop that if your gonna stay with him. you have given him three years of you being an outlet for him. dont allow him to get comfortable with that. it will get worse in other ways you dont wanna imagine. three years seems like a long time to let go just like that so i suggest givng him an ultimatum to get help or your gonna leave him. make sure you follow through on whatever decision you make because he will test you to see how real your being.
2007-03-28 00:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, let him know how you feel. if he doesn't give u a straight up answer something is definitely wrong. all guys are not like that. just talk to him girl. make sure its a long conversation, ask him about the relationship and how he feels and then tell him your side of the story. it doesn't hurt to try.
2007-03-28 00:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. if he won t listen, decide what you like better: being sad all the time, or beginning a new life. Then make a decision. Take care
2007-03-28 00:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by piksy_rose1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should find someone else, and no, not all men act like that sweetie, trust me. I'm really questioning women right now myself
2007-03-28 00:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes selfish and only worried about his own feelings; not caring about hurting yours when your just trying to help.
2007-03-28 00:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋