Its been almost a year since Ive lost my mom and i feel like there is nothing to be excited about anymore.....i lost connection with my best friend because she moved far away and slowly we drifted apart after several years of friendship...my boyfriend and I broke up..and I lost my mom all around the same time.. i feel so weak all the time and never feel like doing anything.. I also work and attend college..what can i do to change ?
2007-03-27 17:08:21 · 10 answers · asked by ¤Amanda¤ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ALWAYS remember that God want make a mountain that you can't climb. God has a plan for you.You may not understand why things are happening the way they are but you will. I also want you to remember that your mom is in a better place and she's always near you and watching over you. I'm really sorry that you lost your mom, I hope everything works out for you.
2007-03-27 17:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , I'm very sorry about your mom .... losing a parent is one of the most difficult things to go through.
Depression is often brought on by tragedies in our lives and it sounds as though that may be a problem for you.You should go and talk to your doctor ... explain how you've been feeling. The good news is that medication can help. In the meantime it might help you to look it up on the internet so you understand exactly what it is and how it happens.(if you don't already). The proper medication can help you feel yourself again but it takes a little time. You should visit your doctor as as soon as possible. Take care : )
2007-03-28 00:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to say its a time issue but its been 3 yrs for me since I lost mom,sister,dad and grandma all with in 6mo of each other. I still feel like you do. Good days and bad. You can go to a doctor and get meds for the depression but I think this is just a part of life. Try to stay busy and focus on the good things in your life. Just know every thing will change so the feelings your having now will pass, not to say they won't come back but at some moment you'll say wow life ain't so bad. Hang in there and if you need to, go to the doc and get the meds. You need to keep your self in this game, called life.
2007-03-28 00:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see a therapist. You can talk about your problems with him and I would also try to get active. Excercise takes your mind off things and in turn you also feel better about yourself when you are done. If you like sports, join a team to get your mind off of things and for activity. The worst thing to do is dwell, because you can't change the past.
Try to make today a little better than yesterday. Just do one more little thing a day to try to make your life more fulfilling or toward your goal. Try to meet someone else at the college that you have things in common with. Things will get easier, but it will take time. Good luck.
2007-03-28 00:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. I know it must be a horrible experience to lose your Mom and then the other changes in your life also, but you know that your Mom would not want you to live your life like you are. Please try to think how your Mom would want you to be. She would want you to be happy. Pray and ask God to give you guidance with this problem. He is always there for you. Just keep praying until you get your answer. Good luck.
2007-03-28 01:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a poem that a friend gave me when my father died it help me look at thing differently. He has been dead for almost 10 yrs now and there is not a day that I don't think about him. It is real hard at first but as time passes so does the pain. But you will always miss them.
I AM STANDING UPON THE SEASHORE. A SHIP AT MY SIDE SPREADS HER WHITE SAILS TO THE MORNING BREEZE AND STARTS FOR THE BLUE OCEAN. SHE IS AN OBJECT OF BEAUTY AND STRENGTH AND I STAND AND WATCH UNTIL AT LAST SHE HANGS LIKE A SPECK OF WHITE CLOUD JUST WHERE THE SEA AND SKY COME DOWN TO MINGLE WITH EACH OTHER. THEN SOMEONE AT MY SIDE SAYS, "THERE SHE GOES!" GONE WHERE? GONE FROM MY SIGHT...THAT IS ALL. SHE IS JUST AS LARGE IN MAST AND HULL AND SPAR AS SHE WAS WHEN SHE LEFT MY SIDE AND JUST AS ABLE TO BEAR HER LOAD OF LIVING FREIGHT TO THE PLACE OF DESTINATION.
HER DIMINISHED SIZE IS IN ME. NOT IN HER
AND JUST AT THE MOMENT WHEN SOMEONE AT MY SIDE SAYS, 'THERE SHE GOES!' THERE ARE OTHER EYES WATCHING HER COMING AND OTHER VOICES READY TO TAKE UP THE GLAD SHOUT, 'THERE SHE COMES!"'
(BY HENRY VAN DYKE -- A FAMOUS AMERICAN PREACHER, POET, AND PHILOSOPHER.)
2007-03-28 01:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by edj009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not seam like it but things will get better in time. Start by finding a good counselor, you need someone to talk to. And pray, God is always by your side. Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-28 00:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and see if that may help. Seek counseling and talk about your losses. You may be getting depressed and may need to see your doctor. An anti-depressant may be helpful, if you are having difficulty funcioning everyday.
2007-03-28 00:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slap yourself and get over it. Unless I am much mistaken, your mother would wish for you to be happy. Start seeing somebody and talk to them about your problems. Sometimes, it helps to blabber about your sorrows to a sympathetic listener.
2007-03-28 00:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by SisterOfAChubbyBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never get over a loss, but you can learn to live with it. Your goal is to learn to live with it and still be happy.
2007-03-28 00:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by nana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋