I'm moving on so why do I still care about her?

Question

A teacher came to me today and pulled me out of class, took me to her office and told me to please leave the girl alone. I've only tried to talk to her that one time, I've only called once four months ago (then hung up and never tried again), and I only gave her one letter on Valentine's Day. Like I said, we haven't talked for 11 months and that's plenty of opportunity I could have used to harass her, which was/is the last thing I ever want to do to her. I told her that too, when I tried to talk to her I said "I don't want to bug you or harass you or anything so I'm going to leave." After the day I tried to talk to her I haven't paid her any attention at all, and continued to pay no attention to her. Five days later she tells a teacher on me and the teacher said her MOM called the school about me. It was like they were accusing me of harassing or stalking her which I had NOT been doing. Like I said, I only tried to talk to her ONE TIME, and didn't say anything to her since. So I'm not telling her happy birthday tomorrow, I really don't want to see her again, I never want to talk to her again and when I graduate I never will so good riddance to her and I'm making sure when I find someone else I'm doing a lot better from this experience. Below is the exact details of when I tried to talk to her.

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back. We had a friendship that lasted 4 months. She got mad at me for a mistake I made which takes too much explanation and two months later she told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I HAD NOT been talking to her since she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I thought things would be cool between us so recently for the 1st time I tried to talk to her. When I asked her how she was, she kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I told her I only wanted us to be friends again but she wasn't hearing me. She talked to everyone who came in the hall but me. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around." I left the hall. So, I'm moving on.

But for some reason I still care about her even though I tell myself I don't.

About the letter thing, so there's no confusion, I'm saying I've only sent her one letter out of all this time we haven't talked.

I was already not going to try to be friends with her anymore but the teacher pulling me out of class and talking to me like I'm a stalker-freak really cements my position about her. I'm never talking or thinking about her again. That's what she wants anyway, which I already was doing.

I'm saying I've been leaving her alone, I tried to talk to her ONCE and never said anything else to her, then five days later she goes to a teacher about me who pulls me out of class and talks to me about her.

The way the teacher talked to me she (the girl) made it seem like I was constantly bothering her.

She hasn't LIED technically, she OMITTED info like the teacher obviously didn't know I only tried once to talk to her.

Answer 1

Hon, you really need to move on. She seems like to me when you want to pay attention to her she doesn't want it but when she wants the attention and doesn't get her way then she hollars stalking and tries to get you into some serious trouble. The best thing for you to do is to stay as far away from her as possible, cause it sounds like she is trouble just looking for a place to happen..I would not texted her, I would not smile at her, or even acknowledge that she walks the face of the earth, cause eventually you are going to be the one who winds up getting in more trouble than the girl is worth.. Good Luck Sweetie...

Answer 2

Everybody can change. Once the "fantasies" stop. You must to move on and try other things or to meet other people.
Is that, we don't stay only in one person and at least you try to make up with her. Sometimes girls don't really understand your true intentions. Even how hard you say to that person, they just judge you literally. I know it's kinda confusing what's happening to you. But you have to let go and move on. She's not the only one to this world, and probably could find much better than her.
Before, I do have the same problem. She is the nicest girl I met. But when the problem occur. I tried to tell her that I'm not the one who make that crazy things. But she never answer back then afterwards she just don't talk and speak. I don't know why? But I have to move on. I don't want to scare her or anything or tell out loud that "I'M NOT".
Is that sometimes, God wants us to know How good are you really are.

Answer 3

There isn't anything below but it doesn't matter cause she said no. That's the main point, right? Find someone else. Good luck. If you care about the girl leave her alone. Girls don't want to be stalked. It makes them hate a guy. The more you do it the worse it makes you look in their eyes.

Answer 4

Just consider this an early lesson about how you should let things happen naturally. People try so hard to convince others that they love them and expect it in return. Don't listen to words listen to actions. Actions always tell the truth. someone who loves you would respect you and call back as well as show interest. Some day the same thing will happen to her and she will look back and realize how she made you feel. Learn how to be your self and love who you are inside so when you meet the right woman it will be a mutual thing.

Answer 5

Man look at all your last posts on here you didn't see this coming. I told you not to send that letter it was to mushy witch when the girl doesn't like you comes off as creepy and maybe you haven't talked to her but did you talk to her friends about her it probably got back to her. Did she see you looking at her constantly? I don't blame the mom for calling but I believe you that you are not a stalker. I know you are just hung up on her but you have to get over this oneities and don't even take her back when she comes back to you. Because when you move on she will try and come back to you they all do. I still have a case of oneities my self but you are letting it get in your head to much.

Answer 6

You still care for her because you're human... humans do that... we continue to care about people...

I've been married for over 7 years, and I'm finally to where all I feel for old boyfriends is a passing curiosity regarding how their lives are going.

I'd suggest keeping on as you have been- don't talk to her, don't call, don't send letters, valentines etc. She wants you to leave her alone, do as she wishes... besides, she's clearly psychotic- seeing threats where there are none....

If she ever tries to talk to you, return the favor- ignore her... (And the mean, vindictive part of me says that then you should pass her a note that you don't want her stalking you, "How dare you harrass me like that!! Gee, I better have my mommy call the school and blow this all out of proportion, get you in trouble for looking at me!")

Answer 7

myb she got a short memory lost?? so she get to forget easily by the time u xplain 2 ur teacher that u'r not buggin her anymore..
if u wanna move on i guess that u just hve 2 leave her alone and when she made up sum lies about u just ask them to prove that u really did that crime.. all u need is prove, if they hve the prove i think just back off if the dun hve the prove it means they lie..
hve u ever think boud tryin out another school?? (although for the payments and everything, no offense) .. well if u disappear for a while i think she will forget boud it..

Answer 8

I know it will be hard to move on buts that's the best thing to do. She is not worth you wasting your time when u can be with someone that actually cares of what you give her valentines day or how you act when you are around her just try to forget and move on trust me i have been through the same situation its not worth it

Answer 9

I was really in love with this guy so i know how it feels to really like someone and you really want to talk to them and be with them all the time and when you get your heart involved it is soo hard to let go when something happens in your case finding out that she didn't like you back...I know this might be really hard but in this situation you can't be mad you have to move on with your life.. you don't have to forget the times you may have spent with her you can remeber and have good memories but try to move on with your life hang out with other girls and maybe you will find someone you like after a while.

I really hope that is works out for you.. .and good luck

And just to let you know getting mad at someone is away of getting mad at your self for her not liking you back. It doesn't help at all.....Try and move on....

Answer 10

Well, I can't accuse you of not providing details.

You are wasting your time thinking about her. And she's being mean to you, so that should help you move on.

And stop lying about having moved on. Just do it.

Why do you care about somebody who doesn't respect you?