My daughter just had a baby,(I'm 39) I just drove 6 hours to be there for the delivery. My daughter has nobody around her that can help her at this time. My Mother wants to go visit her but refuses to not bring my brother and his 2 yr.old with her. If they go there is no room in the car for me and my daughters younger sisters to go. I cant afford another trip by myself. Going with her would make it more affordable for me and we have always had fun traveling together in the past. My Brother doesnt care about seeing the baby, my Mom just wants to make a mini vacation out of it.She would be taking my sister as well who is best freinds with my other daughters.My daughter really wants me and her sisters to go, but my Mom wants my Brother and his son to go instead. I'm taking her out of my life!How do I show her how much she has hurt me and my kids? My brother lives with her, she sees him all the time! Cant she live one weekend without them????
2007-03-27 16:59:54 · 5 answers · asked by skipper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My question is whose trip is this? Is it your trip in your car with you paying the majority of the cost? Or is it your mother's trip in her car with her paying the majority of the cost? It sounds like the second in your question and as hard as it would be not to see your daughter and granddaughter maybe this time around it's more of an extended family time.
The best case I can see is talk to your brother and see if he really wants to go. If he doesn't and is just being roped into the trip both of you together may be able to change your mom's mind. But if he needs a mini vacation you may be out of luck.
2007-03-28 01:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though a family meeting is in order. Maybe sit down and talk to your brother about this first , sometimes siblings just get it a little more easily than parents do. Then all of you sit down and tell your mom what's going on. Tell her why you feel the way you do and express how important it is. She loves you and I'm sure will come around.Taking her out of your life is surely not the answer. it's a very immature approach that will simply cause more hurt feelings . Please think before you act on this .... handle it in a way that will leave you feeling good about yourself. It will work out .... communication is the key !! good luck & take care : )
2007-03-27 17:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your job to go! You are her Mother. Tell Granny to do her own thing, but you need to be there with your daughter. Pawn something so you can go....don't let your Mother run your life or the life of your daughter!
2007-03-27 17:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by DaDiva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is a piece of work.
Somehow, someway, get to your daughter with/without your mom. If you don't go she'll only remember that you weren't there. It won't matter why.
2007-03-27 17:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your decision, do what is best for you and your family. Politely tell her that you want her to go, but that there is no room for anyone else. If she gets mad, then you go without her.
2007-03-27 17:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋