To make a long story short I cheated on the love of my life (I know all you realists might say otherwise but all I'm saying is I've never wanted to be with someone so much) last night when I was beyond drunk. The girl was one who's wanted me for a long time and I knew it and never acted on it and somehow will us being alone and I was drunk it happened. I know some of you are gonna hate me for this too but I can't tell her. It would break her heart. I was her first I can't disappoint her like that. I'm pretty sure the girl won't say anything to anyone because she understands but I don't know. Anyone with some real advice?
2007-03-27 16:55:07 · 12 answers · asked by Matt J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My motto: Deny everything. Admit nothing. Demand proof. Make counter accusations.
2007-03-27 16:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that, with the exception of the fact that I wasn't drunk (which makes it worse...)
But here's my best advice.
If you feel like you NEVER want to tell her this or have her EVER find out, talk to the girl you cheated with. Make sure you can trust her and she won't say anything. Then, do NOT make the mistake of letting anyone else know, not even your closest friends. Because the only way she'll find out is if the people that know talk about it.
Act like it didn't happen. I know it sounds bad, but it's the only way to keep it silent. People aren't perfect and they make mistakes, but that shouldn't keep you two from staying together.
If, however, you do want her to know, you need to tell her now before it drags on and there's a lot of time in between. Tell her the situation, what happened, and do not make yourself look any better or worse than what really happened--just be honest. Give her time to process what you've told her and when she's ready, she'll talk to you. If she's really in love with you, you will both find a way (maybe not anytime soon, but someday) to live with it and move on.
2007-03-27 17:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bad boy!! They say confession is good for the soul but sometimes confession can lead to destruction and sorrow. Let well enough alone. You were very foolish to get drunk and allow that to happen, but if you try to ease your conscience by unloading this on your girlfriend, she may never forgive you. You don't have to become the other girl's enemy, but stay away from her. Hopefully, you learned a lesson.
2007-03-27 17:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is some real advice bro , if she was just some dime a dozen chick then i would tell u a great way to hide this situation from her. but u say she is the love of your life? then u just be straight up and tell her , aint no realer advice than that! just tell her baby i was really drunk and that bich violated me!
2007-03-27 17:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow,, thats terrible...i can understand how you feel...and i would hate my bf if he did that for me...but then again...i know that you can't really explain what u've done and u don't even know how it all happened...u can't keep sumthing like this from her...if she is really the loveof your life, there is no way u can't tell her, and the longer u leave it the worse it will be when it finally comes out and you tell her.
Unless of course, if it never comes out...but don't count on it
Goood luckk
2007-03-27 17:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by biianca [ loveees ] you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my question to you is....If i had a closet and i didnt want some to look in it and i locked it and thew away the key... how long do you think it would take for someone to break the hinges and bust my closet wide open for everyone to see?
Nothing is hidden for ever... some one will find out sooner or later.
2007-03-27 17:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by thelionsden79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You messed up twice.
Dump them both. Go find true romance and this time STOP GETTING DRUNK.
2007-03-27 17:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by jinoturistica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't everything thats done in the dark eventually comes to the light
2007-03-27 17:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by hottie hot hot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like Hell
2007-03-27 16:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just that your a jerk and needs to die D=<
2007-03-27 17:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋