yeah well again, lol, my 2 year boyfriend broke up with me in december. then in january he came back and told me he loved me, but that we shouldnt go out, but we should see other people. i fell for him again. then in the end of febuary, he told me he didnt love me anymore. and now, he has a new girlfreind. im still crushed. im still crying. i feel sad that we may never talk again. im still in love. but he was my first love. im 14. plus i live in the united states, he lives in canada, so we barely see eachother. thats why he dumped me. but now hes "madly in love" i want to die and i dont feel happy. it hurts so bad.
2007-03-27 16:40:48 · 29 answers · asked by hollisterCali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
time to move on- he's using you as the glue between girlfriends.
woof!
2007-03-27 16:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by snapper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY thing I can tell you will be the very thing you'll tell someone else 15 years from now. You'll learn as I did...as the young 14 year old you'll someday counsel, that time heals everything.
Your heart will break...you'll feel as though it's the end of the world...and in some ways, it is...but only a portion of the world. What's ending is the innocence of your heart. It was bound to happen...it's part of life and growing up.
But you will be OK. You're 14. Go ahead and cry and don't let anyone tell you what you feel for this guy isn't real. It is.
But what's not real is clinging to the false hope that 14, you and a guy in another country can make a go of it. You can't, sweetie,. There really are more than just miles that separate you.
He's moved on with his life and you should too. Be thankful for the time you had together and choose to look at this relationship--no matter how brief as a gift. First loves always are. They wonderful. they're painful, cruel, beautiful and vital to your emotional growth process.
You will be fine. You mght not think so right now...maybe not tomrorow or even next week, but this too will pass. At 14, you will live to love again.
I know. I was 14 when my first love left me..not only broke my heart shattered it. But I assure you I learned to love again.
So will you.
2007-03-27 16:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by I am Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 14, and should be enjoying this time of your life.. I am so sorry you are hurting.. Love at any age lost hurts.. trust me..
No one has a patent on not hurting over broken relationships yet.. I don't know how old this guy is.. But, believe me , this on again , off again routine and telling you he has a new gal, and that distance is why he dumped. you. Oh, my what a line.. absence can make the heart grow fonder.. only if one really cares. So, try to think of this as a blessing he left.. that you are a better person than he is... relationships meant and mean something to you.. They don't obviously to him.. He wants excuses to cover him..
I hope you are close to your mom... talk to her about this... she loves you and wants the best for you.. she might have some pearls of wisdom too to share with you.. Good luck to you in your life..
Let your heart and mind have time to heal...by first discovering who you really are inside, and before trying to discover boys.... Most adult men still admit they haven't figured us women out.. LOL .
2007-03-27 16:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truely loved you then he would try harder to make things work bwtween you and him. Im 14 too. and i was in the same situation that you are about a year ago. what i did was i through myself into sports and my friends and school i made sure i was busy but you cant always be busy so when i was alone i still cried but what i didnt do was let it control my life i met someone new and you will too! He will be so much better to you then this other guy. you can still cry and hurt and getting back to your normal self we'll take time but youll get over it. Good luck!!!!
2007-03-27 16:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Htrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14 and I think you better move on. That is what you get when you have your first break up. Don't take it too hard because this life. It is not easy to say this but I have a similar experience while I was your age. I had my first love at 14 too. Trust me, you will learn to cope and deal with it. It just take a little time.
2007-03-27 16:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 when i had my first long term boyfriend and it was with the boy i lost my virginity too. I felt like i wanted to do die too.And than he moved to Georgia right at the end of our relationship. I thought i would never find anyone better and i couldnt bare to think of him with another girl. but my friends got me through it. i kept myself busy and no matter how much i want to call him i wouldn't. You have to be strong. Talk about how you feel with your friends and parents it helps. Or write in a journal sometimes writting can be like therapy. You will be ok. And just enjoy highschool and you will find how much fun you can have with no b.f. and no worries. Just take it one day at a time. Pamper yourself, shop, get a new hair cut or color, and separate yourself from anything that reminds you of him. You'll be ok girl, i made it and i wanted to die too. But im here and time heals everything. Just breathe and be positive.
2007-03-27 16:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by craziglueforever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet and simple the solution if you take out the first love and fourteen bit. If you were older you wouldn't allow yourself to be the backup girlfriend. If this wasn't your first love then you wouldn't be crying about a boy who has even said he doesn't love you. Why spoil the memory of the good times of your first true love by hanging on to it and ruining it for no reason. You are fourteen though and you're most definately allowed to cry and be dramatic. That is so normal.
2007-03-27 16:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by astimoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry so much about it. The only way to truly tell if he loves you is to wait for him to turn 18 and see whether or not he moves closer to you. Seeing as how you are 14, you most likely won't wait that long, so go ahead and start dating someone else, you're still very young and have plenty of years of passion left in you, and it is better to not squander it on a boy who is playing with you.
2007-03-27 16:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by shabushabu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay 1st i know where your coming from and look at life as if this is a something you experience and it push u to learn and c what other guys out there for u to look into
i mean boo your young and im sure this wont b ur last heartbreak and if u feel like he is where u wanna b in life then keep an open mind that it does get better and u will find a lil shorty in ur area
just pick urself up and try again
2007-03-27 16:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we get hurt we do feel like it is the end of our world.
You deserve better treatment . It takes time , sometimes allot of time to get over the pain of rejection and breaking up. But
in this case you are better off being alone for awhile. Take
special care of yourself right now. Eventually the pain will
leave. You have plenty of time to meet lots of new people It
might help to write down your feelings everyday. Then
later you can look back and see how you felt then and how
things have changed for you.
2007-03-27 16:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by messenger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but you are too young to have your whole world wrapped up in one person. Join a service organization, expand your circle of friends, get involved in other peoples lives, focus on your schooling and choose a direction for your life. As you journey through your life, you will find someone who can and wants to walk beside you. Don't rush it.
2007-03-27 16:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋