i have been in a ldr with my bf for a little over three months now...since the beginning of our relationship we have either talked online or over the phone. My bf is not a rich guy by any means and had been out of work for a while...he just moved out of his apartment and moved in with his brother and his bros gf...my bf only had a house phone before that he shared with his roommate and now since he has moved he has no phone and has no money for a phone. His brother and his bro gf only use cell phones and i dont know what type of plan they are on so i'm not sure if he can actually borrow their cells. Along with it his computer is down so he can not get online...i saw this when i was at his home at the beginning of march to visit him so i do know his computer is actually not working correctly. The last time i talked to him was this sunday...he called me before he was having the phone shut off...we talked and i was really sad b/c i didnt know when i would be able to talk to him again...he said he would try to see if his brother would let him use his computer for a little bit to check emails and send me one. I still have not gotten an email. I'm just not sure what to do or believe...i feel if he was trying to break up with me then why wont he just do it? but then i think why would a guy break up with you after telling you he loves you buying you a really expensive ring for vals day (i wish he rather used this for a phone but i still appreciated the thought ) and then let you borrow his xbox so you had something to do (he is a big gamer) b/c you cant get out a lot for medical reasons. He also told me that he is starting his new job at a pizzeria as a cook and then maybe a driver (drivers get about 18 bucks an hour so i hope he gets that) but still have this weird feeling and i dont know why....he even told me that the only way we would break up is if i dumped him.(he has no prob dumping girls before) along with that he is trying to save to come and see me in may during the time i go into the hospital...am i just being paranoid b/c i cant talk to him or could there be something more?
2007-03-27 16:35:51 · 12 answers · asked by funbrwn_i_grl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry, but he needs to get himself together
2007-03-27 16:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been in a long distance relation with my boyfriend for three years now and I know exactly what you're going through not being able to talk to him as much as you want to and I've gone through the whole wishing he hadn't spent money that could be used for gas on gifts for me. I wonder, do you have a cell phone? A good way to stay in touch would be to get a plan that has free nights and weekends, or you could be the first to send out an email so that he gets the hint.
2007-03-27 16:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry first of all. Here's what you do, even if you are hurting inside. you smile, try to keep busy and talk to your other friends, he's not cheating on you just because he doesn't have phone, i know its very difficult. I will tell you something, people do what they want to do in this life, when he wants to- he will call you or email you. Just be patient, wait, talk to Jesus. Please take care of your health most of all.
Let him see that you are self-confident, you are different from the other girls he knew. Eventually if you just wait it out, you will see him again. Don't lose courage! I think he is trying to get $ together for himself it takes almost a few weeks for first paycheck, everything in life is about TIMING. let him take the initiative, he is the guy--let him be the guy and do his own thing for now.
2007-03-27 16:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 12:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by adamek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be a bit paranoid since you cannot communicate with him. do not take this in any negative way, but you seem needy. you NEED to know how he is, and that usually comes in the territory of long distance relationship. the guy is probably just busy. as you mentioned, he has no money so much be working really hard to get some... probably to spend on you. don't fret. he might be working extra hard to make extra money at his new job. just don't be so persistent as in why isn't he trying to communicate with you... it could be a million things. don't jump to conclusions.
2007-03-27 16:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmmm hard to tell. If he is really that broke he needs to concentrate on getting that taken care of.. you didnt say how old he is, but you said something about him having an apartment so i guess at least 18... he needs to grow up and take responsiblity for his finances. good luck with that
2007-03-27 16:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not give him time to get on his feet financially before you give up on him? If you both care for each other the way you say you do,the time you are apart will not hurt your relationship that much.Take your time
2007-03-27 16:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh ur post is super long.
y don't u tell him directly u're irritated when u can't talk to him or can't find him.
and see what he says. so u got your answer, u won't go crazy.
2007-03-27 16:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by queen. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
summarize that in 5 sentences or less and ill let you know.
2007-03-27 16:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes ur going crazy shorten up the explanantion and repost
2007-03-27 16:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋