Hey! I'm 19. This guy im interested in who is 23 really likes me. He says ''we'll make eachother happy'' I'm unsure if i could be with him or not? Actually im unsure if i like him enough to kiss or even have sexual contact and go on dates. As of now i havnt seen him in weeks...I miss him, & i just want to see him and cuddle you know the whole mushy muchy stuff lol. And i like him on the phone. But before when i would go over his house i wouldnt be as interested as i was. This time I just dont know...If i just give it a shot and kiss him and show affection could it change the whole out-look on the situation?
2007-03-27 16:29:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe yes maybe no...its ur call
2007-03-27 16:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by ToddMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to depend on someone else to make you happy? ... True happiness comes from within ourselves.
If you are unsure of liking him or anyone.. Kissing him is definitely not the answer to do "research" on for your feelings.
You may miss more the emotions and physicalness of being close to someone.. Rather than him .. I made a big mistake years ago thinking someone truly loved me.. I was in love with him.. But, looking back now.. He never wanted to commit, after over 20 years of marriage and children he couldn't keep his pants zipped.. That never is love..
And, trying to be close to someone you aren't overly sure of can create emotions to rise inside out of needyness rather than desire.. and that neediness could lead to sexual contact later regretted. Please , think about this before you act on.
Good luck to you. If you still want a relationship .. take it slow so you KNOW it is what you want... in any relationship... Love and LUST are two different things.
2007-03-27 23:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, check yourself again... you mentioned you were unsure a couple of times, but then again you say you miss him. Then you weren't as interested, but you would like to cuddle. You're kinda fighting yourself for this guy, and honestly that can mess you up emotionally (personal experience). It sounds like you're feeding off of HIS attraction to you, which isn't good. Be considerate of his feelings and be honest. If you're not feeling him mutually, don't lead him on and don't fool yourself. He'll be disappointed, but appreciative for your honesty. But if you're willing to explore what you could possibly have with him, suck it up girl and go for it! If you stay negligent about it for so long you'll end up never taking a chance you might regret!
2007-03-27 23:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by rubymsmith1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweets...give yourself some time to think it over.Missing someone doesnt necessarily mean "loving" that person.Your feelings for him may have changed for the better..but u need to be sure of it.U can hang around with him when he comes back..know each other better and whether u r comfortable around him or not..whether he totally excites u or not.Go out on dates with him...and u'll find a lot of answers of yr questions.U dont have to kiss him now or anything.take yr time.good luck:)
2007-03-27 23:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont feel that you like enough to do that, then dont. that wont change the way you actually feel about him. i mean, i guess it could make you think you feel a way that you dont..but i just think that if you arent feeling interested in him now, then dont even get into that. its not going to get you anywhere you want to be.
2007-03-27 23:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it, if it works out good then great. And if not, your young, you'll bounce back. Life is what's happening while your just sitting there.
2007-03-27 23:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Bob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whaaaaaT..... sounds like you just need to take it very slow. Meet him somewhere out...not at his house! Find out if you want to get to know him more...or if you just like him as a phone buddy.... your paragraph was very confussing...soooo...don't know what else to tell you.
2007-03-27 23:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by coastgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't I answered this before?
2007-03-27 23:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by ushoveit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋