Heres a brief background: I've known this girl for about 3 years, and we're finally intimate...She used to be a stripper (ya ya i know)...anyway I figured it was just a phase and she would move on...So i helped her get a job at Prudential doing portfolio management...everythings going well...and now she needs to pay for a trip...so she does...and it leaves a dent in her bank account...so the next time i talk to her its, i just made back all that money by stripping...So my dilemna is...she obviously isn't mature enough to try and console in me and maybe work something out so she doesnt have to strip...how should I proceed? so should i cut my losses and equivocate it to like an alchoholic (once an alchoholic always an alcoholic)? or a second chance? or what...? I just need some honest help...thanks all...
2007-03-27 16:26:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would do as Johnny cash once said or nancy sinatra - she should learn to cut her cloth according to her material - and as she dont need much for the stripping thing then do as I would and walk - she is no insurance to you as insurance in loving you.
2007-03-27 16:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strippers are not prostitutes. some strippers take it seriously- they deposit their money and go home after work. other strippers go out after work- blowing all their money- partying with other strippers and whoever else comes along.
yes, it is interesting that she told you about it AFTER she did it. sounds like she's going to do what she wants to do- which is fine. what is not fine is the way she lied (by omission) and told you after the fact- she's the type who will do anything- LIE- to avoid confrontation..
it's not a good healthy relationship, if that's what you're looking for.
take care.
2007-03-27 16:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by snapper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you were intimate but you did not say you were dating. Instead of passing judgment on her why not tell he what you just told millions of strangers. If that is what she used to do then it is easy for her. Tell her you are nor comfortable with her stripping.
2007-03-27 16:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to accept her for who she is... you can't change her and if you love her shouldn't want to change her. She probably didn't come to you because she knows how you feel about it and she wants to be self sufficient. Move on if you cant accept her
2007-03-27 16:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋