I just cant seem to stop. I get stuck on buying certain things (right now shirts). It makes me happy at first and i get this 'rush'. But the more i buy because i cant stop, the more unhappy it makes me. And its not 'fun' anymore but i cant stop. My husband wanted me to get a job to 'make me happy' so maybe i would stop, but i now owe him $500.00 from shopping. I would be like well i have a job now so i can pay him back, but like always it gets out of control. I am tierd of lying, and even shopping, and messing up our money, and of being tierd. Someone please help me. I feel like i am going crazy all the time.
2007-03-27 16:21:07 · 7 answers · asked by lizzybeth 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would say you have an addiction; like any other addiction, you may need professional help. It does seem as if it's getting out of control. And it does seem as if you really want to stop.
A professional could get to the bottom of your habit to see if you are perhaps substituting shopping for something else in your life that is lacking; (love, a child, self-worth) or maybe just a plain addiction such as alcoholics get; more like a physical problem that might be treated some way with drugs or "Shoppers Anonymous". Seriously! Please get help before it gets completely out of control...
2007-03-27 16:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Poppy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to stop this behavior before you wreck your marriage and your financial future. Try to think about that home that you would like to purchase. Think about all the money that you are spending, you will never be able to retire. This will wreck your life. I wish I knew the answer for this, all that I know is if you continue, your life won't be worth living. Keep all of your receipts and return all of the merchandise, see if you get the same thrill when they hand you back your money. Good Luck, I really hope that you can get past this. I know that I would rather live a quality life, I'm not a materialistic person at all. I also know that when you die and they stick your butt in that box, you can't take all that crap with you. Think about the people that you love and what you are doing to them.
2007-03-27 23:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd see a therapist. As has been said, you might have an addition to shopping. Or, it's possible you have a form of bipolar disorder - uncontrolled shopping is often a symptom. Or, you might just be shopping to get your mind off what's really bothering you. I think it would be worth trying to talk this through with a professional to get some help before you end up in real trouble. Good luck!
2007-03-28 00:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You appear to be more concerned with appearance than substance, and are trying to fill an emotional void with material things, in the way some people do with food. This never works! Either try first: Tai Chi & yoga and/or practice for 20 mins. daily, and when needed, the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy", or gaze at a burning candle in a quiet, darkened room. Otherwise you will require therapy. Tell your husband the steps you are taking to address this problem (like putting your credit card in a plastic container, with water, and putting it in the freezer [show him!], and only taking minimal cash with you, just enough for the day, and not enough to buy anything extra), and ask for his support. Journal your thoughts and feelings, and look back at your childhood and try to identify the possible reasons for this: were you materially deprived, or did your parents substitute toys/dolls etc. for attention/affection/love? Your relationship with siblings, if any?
2007-03-28 00:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, this isn't a tough situation. Just avoid going anywhere to shop. The only place you can find yourself shopping is for food. If you must take your husband with you shopping so he can tell you to stop. Have someone you trust with you to tell you whats right and what isn't. And about the job, get a job that you enjoy or one that seems easy.
2007-03-27 23:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a sicology or a psiquiatric help. The shopping experience is to certain people an addition. See on A&E THE BIG SPENDER
2007-03-27 23:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by vrostar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I know its an addication like any other sweetie .. and you mnust seek help ..notuhing to be ashamed about .. we all have our vices.
get help it can only get better .. 1st big step .. you did already .. you addmitteed its a problem good luck
2007-03-27 23:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by krashing_now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋