My son feels he is weak and that is why he doesn't make friends ?

Question

My 10 year old son feels he is physically weak and that is the reason why kids don't associate with him. What should I do ?

My son is already in Karate school, but he feels Karate school is not helping him. When I ask him to join a Pee-Wee leauge he is not interested.

Answer 1

Buy him a set of weights. Lifting weights will help him deal with stress and release hormones that will help keep him happy. =)

Answer 2

Have you considered letting him play sports? Karate may help him feel good about himself. He really needs to be with a new group of kids if the ones at school are being mean to him. Kids always find someone to pick on, not caring what that does to the other childs self esteem. If this doesn't get any better for him you may want to find another school for him or home school, this is why so many kids are at home now.

Answer 3

Make it clear that he is not weak. Make sure he knows that he is not weak. Confidence is definitely a huge thing in this issue. When your son realizes that he isn't weak, or still needs time to grow, he will feel better about making friends. Also, maybe find out some info on what the kids do to him. If they are just shutting him out, suggest that he tries to make other friends elsewhere. If they are the ones for his self consciousness you might want to talk to a teacher about the issue if it is persistent. Kids are shaped in their younger years and it would be a shame for your son to have such a bad view on making friends or talking to people he does not really know.
Hope this helped and good luck

Answer 4

Hi..this is from a learning coach..

A lot of problems start because of poor thinking patterns.
Change your thinking and you can change your life.

You have to show the way with good thinking patterns and with time your son will adopt better ways. Remove negative thoughts and replace them with a positive thought e.g.:

I weak at spelling...becomes..

I'm getting better at spelling every day.

I can't concentrate ..becomes..

My concentration creates my success.

Or something that is meaningful to the person with the negative though pattern.

Watch "The Secret" as a family..and talk about it and start using the ideas.

Answer 5

Take him to the gym, invite him to join a sport, anything that involves physical training. This is will show him that he is not physically weak while making him stronger mentally and physically, and will help foster social skills.

Answer 6

karate classes might make him feel more sure of himself?

video games are a terrible for a kids social life too. my little brother is obsessed with video games and he has a hard time making friends or keeping them because thats all he ever talks about.

Answer 7

well if you really care and want to help him, volunteer him to an activity, like as sport, kids will talk to him, play obviously, and he will become more sociable, he will also be more physically confident, try spending time with him and be you know manly, teach him something, act like you know what your talking about, i.e., "teach him how to play or interact, and be a good person".

Answer 8

Enroll him in an after school activity. For example Judo, Aikido he will learn that you can defend yourself against someone much stronger. Or you can enroll him in the Boy's and Girl's club. Or have him join scouts.

Answer 9

Take him to work out and take martial arts. Trust me it works.

Answer 10

jus tell him it doesnt matter wut others think and teach him and teach him to love himself because if he does, others will follow. hes only 10 so he has plenty of time