We went off to college and all of a sudden things started getting worse. At first he called everyday then the calls just stop coming. He left me 3 times for a girl he met online (but never met in real life). I gave him his space and he came back each time. But now 3 and 4 days go by and I never hear from him and the only excuse he has is that he doesnt want to sit in his room and talk to me on the dorm phone cause his cellphone is broke. And when he does call its for like 30 minutes. I give him every thing and I pay for everything including personal cash. He didnt even buy me a card for my b-day or valentines day. I hate to break up with him because everytime we get back home from college things are great or at least much better but everytime he gets back to school he doesn't call. And his friends egg it on they even tell him to hang up on me and he listens....Im just lost and confused I love him so much but all he can do is say I love you he never can show it....what should I do??Help
2007-03-27 16:12:19 · 8 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I call him all the time.
2007-03-27 16:51:41 · update #1
Going away to college is a tough situation for a relationship to go through. It separates two people who used to have so much time to spend together when they were in the same town. It's difficult to hold a relationship over the phone, when you can't reach out and touch someone. And that's probably a part of the problem. But what you're going to have to do eventually is just ask him why and if he can't come up with a good answer just let it go. It's tough and when you're in a relationship where you're just waiting for one person to say something about what they're really feeling and they don't want to talk then it makes it all the more difficult. But don't get gassed up by the friends, because the peer pressure is usually just a front, and don't get too frustrated by the lack of attention. Take it a day at a time, see what happens, and don't worry. Either the situation is going to work out or it won't. And if it doesn't, then it's just an opportunity to grow and move on. But don't drive yourself crazy over it. Chill and let whatever happen happen, and chin up and smile.
2007-03-27 16:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by let_it_be_known1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him why he's acting the way like you mentioned. I think he's just busy, tired, and stressed out in college, so give him a break. Do you ever call him, or he always calls you? If you've never called him, try calling him.
Ive been through a similar situation like yours. My bf calls me a lot from the beginning of our relationship, but then he never calls me later on. I became the one who's always calling him now. The reason he doesnt call me anymore is because he said he's busy with work and school. We only talk like once a month now, it sucks but I know he needs his space.
2007-03-27 16:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by =D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to value yourself more. He's taking advantage of your generosity. Of course things are good when you guys get together...he wants the sex. He has everything he could want, and no matter how he treats you, you continue to provide everything for him. There's no reason for him to treat you any better. I say, it would be horrible to waste any more time with this fool. Hold your head up, and find a replacement.
2007-03-27 16:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously don't really want to stay with you so the only thing you can do (if you have any feelings at all) break up with him. You're not a toy he can't have you when he want and throw you away whe he thinks he found some one better or whatever!!!! i pesonally cannot be treated that way!!
2007-03-27 16:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by physco_porsche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably has another girl, and is just using you. especially since you pay for everything? it should be the other way around. but anyway, stop giving him money and see if he still stays, i bet its the money thats keeping him
2007-03-27 16:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by Chrystopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-27 16:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by crizza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a player to me I would call him and drop his *** before he plays you like a video game!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 16:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Katiee:))) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
classic jerk making the chick pay - sounds like you just need a new jerk
2007-03-27 16:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by JET99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋