How can I make her more comfortable?

Question

So a few days ago me and this girl I reallllly like had this big drama thing going and suffice it to say I asked her out and she just wanted to be friends. But when I say wanted to be friends, I wasn't talking about normal I just want to be friends that guys and girls normally do to say "I'm not interested, leave me alone". Like we were getting to be good friends before and now we hang out like everyday lol. When we're alone or around others its great and we have fun and its playful and normal. But she doesn't want to do some things like go see a movie my friend and her friend (who are dating) want to check out but its more of a chick flick and it would be just the 4 of us, which is understandable, she doesn't want to hang out with the four of us to just hang out, we always need to be doing something or going somewhere. She seems uncomforable depending on what we do as a group and its understandable because some times I feel like that, but how can i make her more comfortable around me?

Answer 1

I think the problem is that she truly does want to be friends and its the type of activities that she is invited to that is making her uncomfortable. After all, if its you and her and another dating couple going out or even just hanging out, the appearance is that the two of you are a couple. By going somewhere or doing things that are not "date" type of activities, it keeps the focus on other things.

She knows that you would like to be more than just friends, but do you know what she is truly feeling about the situation? Ask her why she tends to look uncomfortable when you are together sometimes. You may not want to know the answer, then again, you may just be pleasantly surprised too. I think it will ease the tension if you both get things out in the open. At the very least, it should allow the two of you to be more comfortable around each other.