OK, so I have already sent out my save the date cards. Roughly 7 to 8 months ago. My big problem now is that a few of the people I sent them to…. have well to make a long story short.... gone crazy... they are no longer people that I am close with (although I am polite and make chit chat with them) and they have had major falling out with most of my other guests it has turned into my high school nightmare... of course my bridesmaids all rock and tell me to do what ever makes me happy... but honestly the ones who have gone off the deep end are completely in the wrong… my other guests did nothing wrong!
My question is... what is the proper thing to do... if I send them a save the date do I HAVE to send them an invite? If I don't send an invite do I have to sit and tell them why?
Have any other brides been through this.. any words of wisdom.. thanks
2007-03-27 16:04:43 · 7 answers · asked by akholler 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow thats a biggie. I mean, when the actual wedding is taking place everything is about you and your hubby. There is really no time for riff raff. Everyone is focused on you. I say invite everyone you can, you get more gifts that way.
2007-03-27 16:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by That Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only invite the people I wanted to be there, even if you have told the bad apples to save the date. When they do not recieve the invitation, they may ask why, and you would then be obliged to tell them politely that since there was a falling out you did not think they would be comfortable coming to the wedding, and you did not want difficulties on your wedding day. If they are genuine friends it is likely they have already done what they can to help you anyway, and the troublemakers are likely to whine about you whether you invite them or not.
Enjoy your day without guilt, all you did was let them know your wedding date, you are not withdrawing an invitation.
Having said all that, I think I would feel better myself, if I did something like invite all those who you have decided are not coming to the wedding to lunch or something, and tell them that you have to limit numbers and although you would have loved them to be there, you would like to take them to lunch or have them to your home or whatever, to make up for it. You can do this ages before the wedding or close to it, and it covers all bases. You could do this as a group of them or one by one or whatever.
Everyone understands limiting wedding guests, and it is never considered polite to question it, especially when you are trying to make up for it.
Have a great wedding day.
2007-03-31 05:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it's time to send your invites, just send them to the ones that you want there. Leave the trouble makers off your list, and just invite the ones that are not causing you any bother. It's meant to be your special day, so don't let anyone spoil it for you.
2007-03-27 16:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just not send them an invitation and if they do ask why just let them know that this is your day and you did not want any stress!!! Sounds hard but i had to do it also and people did seem to understand. Good Luck and congrats on your wedding!!
2007-03-27 16:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing to remember is this day is about you and your future husband. This day is not about anyone else. You don't have to invite anyone to your wedding if you feel that it will create tension. This day is about you not silly adults who choose to act like children. You are trying to make the best of this day for you and your fiance and I think that you should keep that in mind when you make your decision.
2007-03-27 16:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by kapy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, I despatched out my invites 8 weeks in the previous my wedding ceremony and nonetheless had to function human beings between then and my wedding ceremony day! it particularly is perplexing, besides the undeniable fact that it is going to all artwork out. particularly, the table making plans grow to be in all probability the least perplexing section for me. I secure little ones and had tables of 8-10 human beings. I purely placed one family contributors of four with yet another family contributors of four. take a seat human beings in communities in case you are able to, do no longer worry approximately singles until the tip; they oftentimes get seated at a table with one yet another besides. The worst ingredient that sick take place is that human beings won't like their seat and that they are going to eat their nutrients the place assigned and then circulate. it particularly is relatively no longer that huge of a deal!
2016-10-20 02:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either do not invite them or just invite them to the service and not the reception.
2007-03-27 16:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋