I've never heard from him for days now. Is He Avoiding Me? Why? Why Can't he juz Be HOnest To Me?
So, We've been flirting (We are in different states- long distance). We had been texting and talked sweet.
He said he really liked me, missed me and had feelings for me. As we are so far away and we can't be together, we both are almost going crazy.
Since last saturday, He never texting me and nor replies my text. Is he avoiding me? Is he calling it quits? Why can't he just be straight and tell me clearly...? why would he dissapear without even telling me or any kinda explanation? At least he say it all and i'm gonna move on, but now he left me all confused and still wondering what's going on.
What do i do? I can't find him now.
I know i have to LET go.
I need your advice how i can move on...
2007-03-27 15:59:17 · 31 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't find him and i don't want to be seemed like an idiot too. he hasn't texting me for days and didn't even reply me text. I called him but couldn't get thru.
2007-03-27 16:06:30 · update #1
Take a deep breath.
Relax. meditate for a few minutes by clearing your thoughts. Okay? Now let's think about this...
If youve been flirting long diatance via text, IM, email, whatever...have you ever spoken directly? I mean talked voice to voice?
Have you ever spoken via webcam or vidphone face to face?
If you have not then get some perspective. You have a need to be needed, and a strong desire to be wanted, but you feel he doesn't need or want you. Am I close?
You don't have to have external validation to be worth needing and you dont have to have any boy fawn over you day and night to be wanted.
So if you don't need him to have the same burning desire you have for him...why are you doing this to yourself?
Stop sending ultimatums ("PM me or we aren't going to be friends anymore!") and don't whine ("Was it something I said?"). Don't cling ("Where are you?") desperately. Just wait.
A few days could be anything from he is busy with school or work. He might be sick and not want to talk to anyone. he might have met someone else closer (long distance relationships are very very hard...beleive me). None of these things are the end of your relationship...they are all delays.
You cannot force him to contact you nor can you control him from here. Relax, be sweet when he does get back in touch and let him know that you can (and do) survive without him.
Trust me when I say from then on he won't be able to get enough of you.
2007-03-27 16:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by MrDave2176 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Well, the answer would depend on how old you and he are. If you're like 13 or 14, I'd say, "Aww, that's cute." If you're in your 20's or older, you should just be able to get over it.
Really, if you're young, lots of things could have happened. His cell could have been cut off by his parents, or whatever.
If he's older and "should" be more mature, then he's just being an @$$#0!3.
Guys avoid being honest about this sort of thing because they really don't like hurting girls. I mean, even though they do mess up and do things to hurt girls, they're not always proud of themselves and don't want to hurt anyone.
Either that, or they're just bad people and don't care about how you feel. This is not always the case, but there are some people out there like this.
How you should move on? Hmm. Well, go find some friends and go out with them. You'll meet a lot of their friends--maybe even some guys. The key is to find someone nearby.
Long-distance relationships are very hard because you can't exactly feel what the other person goes through, and you're not around constantly to stimulate eachother mentally and otherwise.
Have fun, make new friends and contacts, and eventually you'll find a guy who lives close to you and can appreciate you for who you are. And most importantly, you may find someone who's mature enough not to play games.
No matter what age you are, you'll have many relationships throughout your life. Obviously, not all of them will be perfect. In fact, most will end in a break-up. Just enjoy the ride and never give up hope. Good people do exist, and they are looking for other good people too.
2007-03-27 16:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Android 18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be avoiding you because he may not want to deal with telling you that he no longer wants to talk to you but THEN AGAIN, don't jump to conclusions. I know it may have been a long time now but give the guy the benefit of the doubt. He may have been caught in something. You know how guys can be. If he texts you back eventually, then hopefully he'll have a good explanation as to why he hasn't been keeping in touch. If he doesn't, then you know you'll just have to let it go. Find someone new to talk to. How'd you meet him? Find someone else the same way. There's plenty of chatrooms. Don't get so hung over on it because if he doesn't come back in the end, then you've only been hurting yourself and wasting your own time. Don't get so caught up in why he hasn't responded. Attempt to find something that'll make time go by faster for a while. You'll know what to do when the time comes.
Good luck!!!
2007-03-27 16:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by LuV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this over the internet? you dont say. But I will tell you that people--men and women alike talk all that stuff online and off ALL the time. Nobody's gonna feel obligated to tell you anything if the relationship is casual. He may like you, JUST NOT THAT MUCH! He isnt COMPELLED TO PURSUE YOU for whatever the reason is. He just isnt the ONE for you. Dont stress yourself out about it.....there will be more (boys/men). Life is a journey and people come into your life for many reasons. Some for a reason. Some for a season. Some for a lifetime. Think of it that way....He served his purpose and it was time for him to move on. Good Luck to you!
From a 31 year old woman.....been there, done that!
2007-03-27 16:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might actually have a real issue stopping him from communicating with you,and if he loves you like he said that might hurt him even more to not be able to see you and being close to you.They say that long distance relationship does not work and I say that is only if he doesn't love you for real.In the meantime stop the text,calling or even thinking about him.Go out with your friends have fun.Let him be.Believe me "I know this is very hard to do"but you'll see.He will be the one trying to get in contact with you.Be patient and find something to do to take your mind off of him.
2007-03-27 16:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by lounie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to rediscover who you are and become secure as your own person. When you find that you don't need a guy to make you feel good, then you can go looking for a boyfriend, but until then quit. IF he is interested in you and IF he loved you, you wouldn't have to wait for his next text/call because he would do it. When guys really care about you, they can't get enough either. So, I recommend this book for you..."He's just Not that into you" By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. This is such a helpful book and can help you gain knowlege to build yourself up and resist the temptation to sit by your Portable Electronic devices wasting time waiting for him.
2007-03-27 16:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men take the "avoidance" route when it comes to breaking off a relationship. They figure it's easier to ignore the person and hope they go away. I had an ex-boyfriend end a one year relationship by ignoring me. It's very immature, but some men will do that. If you've already left him messages, don't leave anymore. Give him a few days. Then he may wonder, "Why isn't she calling?" Give him a taste of his own medicine.
2007-03-27 16:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kathryn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey stop texting him! u have opened the lines of communication and if he wants to talk to u then he will bite the bait......but if he doesnt then he is obviously a jerk and not worth ur time if he's just planning on leaving u hanging like this.......im sorry to say but if he is doing this then my guess is that he has found another girl who lives near him and he doesnt have the balls to call and tell u this....my advice to u on how to get over him is to go out and find urself a new beau! a great guy who will treat u like the princess that u deserve to be treated like.......or at least one that will return ur calls and texts =)!
2007-03-27 16:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was just a flirtation as far as he is concerned. since it was long distance, he thinks it is no big deal to stop. If you can't find him, you can' ask.
consider too that since you do not know him well, he could have been arrested, he could be sick, he may have family emergency, etc.
I have got a clue for you, it is not all about you and you need a bigger universe. If you have a larger universe, small things won't rock you so much.
2007-03-27 16:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys never let go they want to keep you hanging around in case they get interested again. I would let him go and if he called back and the excuse is not that someone died then I would pretend for a while to not know who he is then tell him I'm to busy to talk to him right now.
2007-03-27 16:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋