I have a real hard time making friends because i am so shy
2007-03-27 15:56:22 · 12 answers · asked by psychotic wicked ninja 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Try to get your mind off of yourself and instead put your focus on the other person. Most people like to talk about themselves. If you are sitting/standing next to someone, try making a remark about the nice shirt, etc. he/she has on. Ask where they found it, etc. Tell them their hairstyle is really neat--who cuts your hair, etc. By focusing on someone else, you will not be so self conscious about yourself. It takes some practice, but you can do it. Usually people become closer friends when they have interests in common. What do you like to do? Take a class, go to church, join a reading group, etc. and you will meet people with common interests there. Good luck.
2007-03-27 16:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by conni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how it is, i'm shy too. it was really hard for me to talk in front of a crowd or with a bunch of people. I don't think I will ever be popular but I try and try everyday. I started to have more friends this past few months because I kept saying o myself "Come on, you can do this. Just say it, say it." And yeah they just popped out of my mouth. Take theatre. This girl she said that she was really shy and then she started acting and being in front of the crowd and now she has confident in herself, shy no more lol.
Make some friends, some shy ones. i sometimes never speak in class but when i met this shy girl and quiet like me, I just stopped being shy because I have a friend with me.
P.S. Good luck and don't be shy anymore because you'll never know what you can actually do.
2007-03-27 23:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lotus K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing volunteering work at some places where there are animals. Concentrating your focus on the animals will be easy for you to stop being shy. Try the local SPCA. Gradually you will be ok with making friends. Practice makes perfect.
2007-03-27 23:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too. I read too much which doesn't help. But I joined a karate class and eventually began teaching which helped alot. I also got a job as a waitress, that has helped TONS! I suggest you get involved in something that involves social contact.
2007-03-27 23:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sasa<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to use whiskey in a bottle but would not recomend it as also made alot of enemys that way do some things you are comfortable doing such as bowling pool darts what ever just do it.
2007-03-27 22:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend your talking to someone close to you....like a relative. It's not a bad thing to be shy. I'ts a nice quality if you use it to your advantage. You may be seen as attractive.
2007-03-27 23:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Coco Chanel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too!!!! i have the same problem and whenever someone tries to talk to my i just cannot talk back it is sooo horrible. sorry i am no help i really do wish i knew just try to open up to people more if they talk to you and do not worry so much of what others think of you cause that is my problem. Good luck though!!!!!
2007-03-27 23:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
“Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people”. - - Andre Dubus'''
that quote says it all...and i always say it to myself when i get nervous around people!
2007-03-27 23:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by porcupineporno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play with your johnson around people like they are not even there
2007-03-27 22:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Darriruss O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gradually come out of your shell.
2007-03-27 23:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by Nameless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋