Well, some time has passed since my last post here and I would like to give those who answered an update(ref to Prev. posts) as well as a new question. Me and my partner had tried to reconcile things and it went well for a while, but for some reason she kept recounting her regrets about her actions. I tried to tell her it didn't matter but she insisted that it did constantly to the point that we or rather she came to the confession that she didn't love me as deeply as she thought again. No problem i told her and we decided to remain in touch. I later offered to help fix some problems having to do with her vehicle repairs no strings attached. She refused. My problem is that even though we are not together I can't escape the fact that I might be it's daddy. We found out that it was twins but one did not make it, so I'm very afraid. She has since developed some type of blacking out that I don't understand, and may be serious. She says that I need to relax and worry about me cause she
2007-03-27 15:37:39 · 8 answers · asked by lumendelsol 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
is a big girl. She has decided to move in with the sister in law from the same past posts who was negative about the baby, which she has now forgotten about. I know that the sister in law is not allowing me over due to past bad blood between us. What i need to figure out some good advice because I thought that this was supposed to be the best time of my life expecting a child but I'm getting nothing but resistance from all angles. I went so far as to try to reconcile with the sister in laws family but was questioned about my intentions for doing it. well I admit if I'm going to have a baby with a woman whose brother i have a problem with then yes I will try to make amends to make this whole time stressfree, shouldn't I? After hearing for the last time that we are not getting together again for no reason I told her that I had it with trying to get along with her or her family, and that she can contact me if she needed anything for the baby.Did i do the right thing,will the kid be alrite
2007-03-27 15:51:29 · update #1
Me and my "friend" met up for lunch at my job thurs. She had brought a picture of the baby inside her. WOW. its got a head and everything, and sorry but I was weak and started to cry. It's a miracle We'll work together on this as much as we can and god willing things will work out for the best, together or not. I will be as supportive as I can be and she'll do what she needs to do. I feel kinda bad though. I always wanted to get married and live life full, but at the same time I don't want to be the cog in one's life. I told her that if she falls, I got her back if she needs it. We'll deal with paternity when the time comes without harm to baby, I hear the test they do while baby is inside still is risky. but thanks for advice and it was well taken.
2007-03-29 16:34:26 · update #2
I want you to know that it wasn't "weak" for you to cry at seeing a child in the womb....It's a miracle...AND it may be a part of you... Wow... You are certainly not the norm for most men in this position. You deserve quite a bit of credit.
I would definately keep an eye on this young woman. Blackouts are nothing to fool with. She needs to be looked after very well...If one twin misscarried it's possible the other might too. Listen if this happens please don't hesitate to ask for the blood work to be done so you find out if it was your baby..This is so that you can put an end to the questions and they don't follow you the rest of your life.
My only other piece of advice is to tell you that something like this is why God makes the rules he makes...If this relationship ends (and it sound like it already has) when you start to date again...(save it for the wedding night) this is so much to go through and she's not even your wife. I wouldn' let anyone "bat" my heart around like this ever agian either.
The commitment of marriage is more than a piece of paper.
People are spending alot of time going through things "like their married" but are not....As you can already see this has not brought the two of you closer together....But in a real marriage it would. You would go through it together and then move on ..bonded, bound to each other in love and commitment. This has to be so hard..I am so sorry you've already lost a baby (1st twin). I will keep you in my prayers for the Lord to give you his strength and peace.
2007-04-03 19:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkprincess5455 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am really sorry to hear that things aren't going as you hoped they would. sometimes life has unexpected turns but hang in there. when the baby is born you should take her to court to establish paternity and also if the baby is yours try to get some kind of visitation. make sure when you go to court though that you have documentation of your financial status and living conditions and what not so that way the courts can see that you can provide a stable and safe place for this child when it comes to visit. again i am really sorry to hear about your situation and i hope everythings works out for you, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are being a man and taking responsibility for your actions and in a man that is really hard to come by.
2007-04-04 15:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by moore_256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get to worried lots of women black out when prego i know i did i am sure her hormones are crazy and about 6-8 weeks after she has the baby you guys will be able to sit and talk i would assume but get a test when the baby is born cause if you are daddy you need to be there believe me i know i was with someone for almost 7 yrs then about 6 months of a little fighting about 1 time a week he started seeing someone else on monday i found out i was prego on thursday he kicked me out now he gives me no help he has 4 kids 2 girls before mine then 1 boy after my girl witch is a nobody since he has a boy we live 2 hrs apart and he never really wants her even though i have to meet him half way sorry for telling you so much but just want you to be a great dad when the time comes even if you guys don't work out thanks for reading my rattles and good luck hope it goes how you want it
2007-03-27 22:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the only thing you can do right now you backed off and as soon as the baby is born you need to find out if it really is yours and go to court and have a parenting plan drawn up so that it is set in the court that you get visitation with your child
but i would get the paper work and all of that done as soon as you can so that you Will not be denied and time of the baby's life
if you would like e mail me and i will help you with the paper work
2007-03-28 03:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really want to be a part of this baby's life. Get a court ordered paternity test and fight for joint custody.
I'm sorry things didn't work out between you and the mother, it sounds like you really made a good effort.
2007-03-27 23:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by western b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will need to go to court for a paternity test hun.Give her up dear....you will find someone..)
2007-03-27 22:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Missvicki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG..if u have enough time to type all that u need to get a life. 1st of all, dont ask such an important question on something like this, cuz then ull get stupid people giving u stupid answers. second of all, GET OFF THE COMPUTER AND GO DO SOMETHING OUTSIDE
2007-04-02 22:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mike Jones 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I'm sorry but I don't quite understand what you are trying to ask
2007-03-27 22:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋