Should I run away?

Question

Okay, I am sick and tired of my parents taking my brother and sisters side. And I am thinking about running away. Should I do it? If so what do I take with me? P.S. My mom doesn't think she takes there side.

My school doesn't have a counselor

Answer 1

Running away, although it may seem like a good idea now, never ends successfully. You'll probably soon realise that you don't have enough money or resources to live independently yet.

Just tell your parents how you feel - it's better to face your problems then run away from them.

Answer 2

All schools have counselors, they are part of the requirements for an acredited school. IF your school doesn't have the requirements then it doesn't get any state/federal funding.
As for running away...that's totally up to you but once you do you will be come emancipated, your parents will no longer be responsible for your actions or your needs. You will be totally on your own., You will be responsible for paying all of your own bills, which might be difficult since it is against the law for anyone to enter into a contract with a minor. So you wouldn't be able to get yourself an apartment. You'll have to live either on the streets or in homeless shelters. Most shelters require one to help out and do work around the shelter and they have rules just like at mom and dad's. You will be responsible for your own medical and dental payments...again that can be difficult if you are a minor because you won't be able to get medical insurance (that's a contract, can't contract with a minor remember?) so you would have to pay any of your medical expenses up front, so hopefully you don't plan on coming down with a cold, or the flu, hopefully you won't have any broken bones after having the crap beat out of you living on the streets. Hopefully you won't get an STD or HIV from being raped because that sort of thing happens when you live on the streets. You will be at the mercy of those bigger and stronger, as well as older and more streetwise than you...and you think you're sick of the way things are at home? Wait until you are gang raped three, four times the same day and left to die in the gutter, only to be told by the police that you can't sleep there and to get to a shelter or spend the night in jail. So you spend the night in jail and they toss you back on the streets because they don't care about you, you're not their responsilbity until you break the law. So go ahead...run away...

Answer 3

Actually most schools do have a counselor. Even, if they are just guidance counselors, they are still. You don't want to run away. it's a hard knock life out there. What you should do is reason with them. Ask them: why am I wrong? What exactly did I do? How is my sister correct and I'm not. If you ask questions about the situation, they will have to give you answers and eventually see that they are playing favorites. Also, have a family member come over and notice the dynamics. Ask them confidentially if they see any favoratism. Sometimes, it takes outsiders to change someone's mind.

Answer 4

Parents never think that they are taking sides. I would never run away unless I am being physically or sexually abused. People who start running away usually end up running for the rest of their lives when they have problems. I suggest you sit down with a neutral third party and speak to your mother. If it does not get better then become strong and use that strength to do something great in your life that way you will look back on your youth and say" it didn't break me and nothing else can either".

Answer 5

Chances are, you can't run away because you're not fully employed and you don't have your own apartment or house...


unfortunately, this is all that it comes down to.

Ya gotta think it through: where will you go and what will you do? How about next week? Next month?

Just find a way to deal -- and if you think there's no getting better for the situation, get some family counseling --- or at least therapy for yourself so you can talk to someone who isn't your mother about your problems with your mother.

Answer 6

I'm guessing you are a middle child who is use to giving in to what everyone else wants to make them happy while your feelings go un-noticed. When something goes wrong, you are the odd one out because you've been use to having less just so others are accomodated. Which means mom focuses more on your brother and sister because they've either been babied or they need that constant attention. On top of that, you are smart, well informed and already have a game plan on where you are going to stay so you have this feeling that you can do better without them. Well, this is going to come as a shock, but it's not you who needs them. It's them who need you honey. You can't leave. You keep the balance in the family. Without you, the family falls apart. I know you think that last part makes no sense, but consider their life without you. Do you think it would make them happy? Do you think your mother wouldn't lie awake day in and day out worrying about you? Your brother and sister who you completely hate right now...do you think they'd be going through your room riffling through all your stuff to see what they can have? Nope, they'd be right there with mom crying their eyes out. How do I know this? I ran away at 15 because of the same thing. When I was returned home by the police officers a few days later, I barely recognized my mom. Her face was all red, raw and puffy from crying. My brother and sisters were kissing my butt and for a day it was great to be home again. Then I had the heart to heart with mom on our front porch, where she told me that I was her independent child since I was born. I learned to walk faster than the rest, potty train, I didn't want help with anything...I wanted to do everything on my own. Over time she got so use to my independence that she failed to realize by not doting on me once in awhile, she was in a sense alienating me. When I told her how awful I felt, more tears came. She honestly had no idea. She thought my bouts of anger and resentment was sibling rivalry and because I was so darn independent most of my life, she rarely challenged it or thought I needed comforting from time to time. After we had that talk, I had never felt so needed in all my life.

So I say this....if you are brave enough to face the cold and heartless world on your own, take one more shot at the home thing and have that talk with mom. Unless I am wrong about you, you are just taking a cowards way out and you aren't brave enough for a heart to heart. I'm just speaking from experience honey. And my experience in doing what you are thinking about doing actually made me a better parent to my own children. The odd thing, was that I honestly never had to run away to get to that point. If I would have just talked to my mom, so much hurt could have been avoided.

You'll make the right decision....beacuse it's what you do best.

Answer 7

You need food for several days, so pack about 10 lunches in your back back. You will need a few changes of clothes to fit the weather. You will need about $100 cash and a credit card that is good. You will need to get to a bus station so that you can buy a bus ticket. If you use the credit card they will know where you are. You will need a gallon or more of water to drink. You should have you personal identification card with your name and social security number for positive identification when they find you dead on the side of the road or in the alley or lost in the woods.

Take your tooth paste and tooth brush. Take first aid kit in case you get hurt. Take phone numbers of people you know where you could stay. Take your cell phone and its battery charger.

Answer 8

no way should you run a way.. life can be hard at times you need to talk to a school counselor.. believe me its a part of growing up we all go through it..it will fade just hang in there and dont do any thing foolish.. running away could get you in big trouble and even killed so my best advise is find a counselor you can talk to that can help sort ooout these problems.. smile it will get better i promise.. good luck!

Answer 9

Running away doesn't make it better. It actually makes it harder on you. You should try to talk to a counselors or someone older that you can trust. Believe me it doesn't make it better. Just think how are you going to eat, where are you going to sleep and wishing you had clean clothes. Just think you will be doing that every day. Well talk to me. [e-mail]

Answer 10

Running away is not the solution to your problem. Have a heart to heart talk with your mom. Do this when she is not busy and she is in a good mood. This will make her more receptive and will pay attention with what you will say. Tell your mom how you really feel.