i love this man. however, im sorry i dont his mom and she made me feel this way. i dont want to take it out on him. however, mom hates every woman he ever dated as she broke up every relationship he has had. i talk to him he does not take me for how serious i am. im about to give up on this. but, like i said i love him and the mom knows it. so she always starts problems and feuds. why cant he see it or does he and just dont want to admitt it to try to avoid dealing with it. shes possessive, materilistic,and very nosey and gossips. what do i do?
2007-03-27 15:32:59 · 13 answers · asked by greg b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Watch a move...the three of you...the one with Jay lo in it...Monster-in- Law.
2007-03-27 15:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by ushoveit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer this, why do you want to be with someone who can not stand up for a person he is supposed to care about? If he was a real man then he would put a stop to his mothers antics. On the other hand he could be using his mothers behavior to dump girls because he is not man enough to tell them it is over.
2007-03-27 22:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love someone their crazy family is just part of some very bad baggage that you must learn to deal with. try not to spend so much time around her and when you do just laugh off whatever she says or just focus on the man that you love and forget his baggage. build a strong, lasting relationship with this man and then his mother will have to find her own life.
2007-03-27 22:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by undergrad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is seeking out his mother in a relationship and the mother is saying there is none good enough for him, get out now, it will be a bad relationship unless he splits up with his mother, which Is not likely. Save yourself the pain you can't change him and if you could would you love him for what he might become after you change him?
2007-03-27 22:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every mum is afraid of losing her son to another woman... motherly instincts come to play here... sorry but there is nothing much you could do about it... try as much as possible to get in her good books... as for ya man, probably he is blind if he cant see the reason why his relationships dont work out... the best way to beat the mother would be to basically ignore her arguements... she cant go on for long if there is no opponent... all the best...
2007-03-27 22:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sheetal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she sounds like a hater to me. If he is allowing his mother to interfere with your relationship, then he has problems and he's going to continue to have problems until he FINALLY realizes. Have you tried talking to her? I guess she's the jealous type but if you know that you have not done anything wrong, then I would care less about whether she likes me or not. KNOCK HER OUT!!! (naw im just playin)
2007-03-27 22:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sxy is tha name 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough spot to be in, it is often times hard for a guy to see what trouble their mother is causing in this type of situation.
He is going to need to make a choice, you or his mom (when he is legal age, if he isn't already) and then stick to it, mom is going to throw a fit, but if he doesn't make a stand, she will do his to him the rest of his life, or until he finally wises up.
2007-03-27 22:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Ms. Jones, you look nice today. Nice weather we are having. Can I ask your advice on something? I have a friend that is having problems with her boyfriends father...........
Kill her with absolute kindness, ignore her possiveness.....you are in fact my dear taking her baby away from her and she is fighting a battle inside of her.
Do NOT let her see that she upsets you, remember how she is feeling.
When a mother's son marries she loses a son,
when a mother's daughter marries she gains a son.....
ever heard that saying? It is so true.
2007-03-27 22:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on her. If that is the only problem you too share, you are lucky. If you really love him, don't let someone else ruin it for you.
If he is right for you, some day you will look back and realize that it was worth the fight. Besides, lots of people don't really like their in-laws.
2007-03-27 22:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Education1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard of "monster-in-law" this show directley applies to you...you need to confront HER about not your bf...he doesn't realize it because of the fact the she is his mother. you need to take a stand for yourself and let her know that you will stay strong and fight her for him if thats what it takes because you love him and nothing can ever change that not even her......also if you really do love him you should be willing to fight to the death to keep your relationship strong...gossip can hurt but ignore it as long as the two of you know its untrue nothing else matters ;þ
2007-03-27 22:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his mother has been the victim of one failed relationship after another. Then to feel justified, she makes sure her son has the same luck. Pity.
2007-03-28 22:47:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋