I am considering entering a relationship that would be 'friends with benefits'
I want more than this...but i'm not sure what he wants...if he wants more...
I've never had a serious boyfriend, or any friends with benefits and a part of me knows that i'm hoping that we'd become more than just friends...
Does this every happen? Or should I make sure he wants a relationship before i start anything?
2007-03-27 15:30:11 · 14 answers · asked by shy_gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, it won't work, you will get hurt
2007-03-27 15:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've never been in a relationship before, don't start with such a casual sex type situation. The whole point of the thing is the sex. The "friends" part is really minimal, slightly more caring than a bootie call but not much.
I think you should wait for someone who definately sends you the signs that they like you and not just the idea of having sex with you. There are a lot of creeps out there and some of them are nice but a real guy would care about you, too. It's not a business arrangement and don't go into it hoping it will become more. It will probably become less and it will leave you feeling used and hollow.
2007-03-27 22:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Do friends with benefits REALLY work?" No because all it means is that you are using one another for sex and that's all you care about when it comes to the other person...using them. I have never seen such "relationships" ever work because eventually one of the parties winds up resenting being used while the other party thinks nothing of using the other person. If you don't mind being treated like a door mat or worse, a whore if you have no self respect then maybe it is the relationship for you.
2007-03-27 22:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it works for you, it works. But if you really hope for something more, you should make that clear and stick to that goal, not just 'settle' for what you can get. That means being prepared to move on if you're not getting what you need for the long term. Men, especially, find it all too easy to take what they can get from a relationship without making any further commitment.
2007-03-27 22:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by dukefenton 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't do it! If you actually want to keep him as a friend do not go to friends with benefits. If you want a relationship go for it, but friends with benefits usually ends badly - especially when one person wants a relationship and one doesn't.
2007-03-27 22:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kim H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say it but if you want to be friends with benifits thats all you have to want. If you go into it with someone you like, it will never work out because u are want'n more and that person may not. An yes u will get attached cuz you like them. But if you can go into with no feelings, then try it. I have gone into one with no feelings and we endend up date'n. But i do think you should not go into friends with benifits knowing you like this person. I just dont want you to get hurt. But Good luck with ever choice u make
2007-03-27 22:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by lalala!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is such a thing, you must think this through carefully. you could be opening your self up for a fall. you may get your hopes up only too find a empty pit after all the fun is gone. and STD. theres another eye opener, look after no.1 first, then worry about other **** later,
2007-03-27 23:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by rapterpilot64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works if both people are honest in their feelings about just being buddies but be carefull in what you are getting yourself into because it sounds like you want to be more than friends and he just wants somebody to have sex with no strings attached..do you want to be a 2am booty call after he has been out with his pals? tell him what you want and if he is not ready for a relationship forget him!!
2007-03-27 22:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by james s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't become this guy's "friend with benefit!!! its such a ridiculous thing!! He won't respect you, and he definitly won't fall in love with you! This is not the kind of relationship you want!~! don't you want a loving and kind and attentionate boyfriend? well its not by doing this that you are going to get a guy like that! So please have some more respect for yourself than that!!
2007-03-27 22:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jakie22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm telling you Right now, from years of heartache and experiences that, its all fun and games in the beginning, but sooner or later feelings develop, people change in your eyes or in his.
hardly works and has a good ending to it, be careful
2007-03-27 22:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by SugaLova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It doesnt, it just means that the guy wants you for your body not your whole self. My friends were that and now the girl hates him for taking advatage of her. But truely its your decision.
Marks (lovely) daughter
2007-03-27 22:35:24 · answer #11 · answered by mark c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋