How to relieve stress???

Question

I have a 51 year old step father that drive me nuts! He very self centered. he is so lazy I end up doing must of the work because he doesn't want to move his lazy behind because he retired. He is damaging our family because he will not let the people in his own household be who they are; they have to just like him and I refused and now deal with his stinky attutude. I don't deal with it just then but when also something doesn't go his way. He knows it drives me nuts, and then when I approach him about he ignores me, or we get into his arguement. This is taking a toll on me and this is only 1/5 of the things he does. Okay, my grades in school are low, my face is covered in bumps, and I am contantly tired from all the stress. I can't take it any more!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can't say my mom is happy with him, and I can't say she isn't!!

Answer 1

You need to realize that if he can't be compatible with you then, you need to stop trying because obviously he is what causes you the stress. It isn't your responsibility to try to get along with your uncle.

You need to try getting out of the house more, like try doing your homework over a friends house, or a place where you can find peace and quiet to get your mind cleared and get work finished.

You should try washing your face daily with acne scrubs, and blemish removers to remove the bumps, and also don't forget to re-moisturize your face after towards.

Basically what I'm telling you to do is eliminate all the negatives in your life, just ignore then, and once you do that positives will began to appear.

Answer 2

I've been there and done that. My old man was a drunk. Every night we would hide somewhere in the house for fear of a beating. Whatever you do don't turn to drugs. Talk to a school councilor if you can. Try and bring your grades up in school. I promise you'll have a better out look on life. Plus, you'll need them in the future to get a good paying job that you enjoy is a life changing experience. It took me a long time to learn that. I wish someone would of taught me or showed me the way early on. Try and get some hobbies or a part-time job that will keep you busy. Make your own path and don't follow the crowd. They'll always lead you in the wrong direction. I ended up joining the military. It was a life changing experience. I got away for a few years until I got my head together. I then went on to College and my whole life has been great. I never did end up with great relationship with my father. He knew what he did and I kind of forgave him, kind of. Good luck!

Answer 3

I know it must be hard putting up with a step parent that you don't like, but try to. Maybe you can go for walks or start running to relieve some of your stress. Maybe your mom will agree to sign you up for karate lessons or basketball. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let her know how stressed out you are. I'm sure she wouldn't want you to keep on living the way you are. I would like to encourage you to do alot of studying to bring up your grades. If you put all the anger you have for your stepdad, into your schoolwork you'll get better grades. There is always help available at school. Maybe you can join an afterschool program. I really hope some of my suggestions help. Good luck.

Answer 4

The three of you need to sit down and have a serious family meeting where each of you can express your true feelings and opinions about what's going on in your household. Let your parents know how terribly upset and distressed you are and tell them it is causing problems for you in school as well as at home. This is a serious situation and some major changes need to take place within this family "immediately".

Answer 5

OK, what works for me is screaming. It sounds dumb but it works great. Roller coasters obviously are the easiest way but I doubt you can go on one every week. SO, if your ever home by yourself and you feel like you can get away with out making a neighbor mad just scream, it feels great, it relieves all of that pressure held inside. You can always get your friends to do it with you so you wont feel awkward.

Answer 6

Try talking to your mother about the problem. This seems to be a common thing ..Surely she will understand your side of the problem and maybe throw his butt out ..I had some mean stepmothers so I know what u are going through..Try to stay out of the house as much as possible.Kill the old goat with kindness..And one day you will be out of way..

Answer 7

the best way to relieve stress is by exericising. Just get out of the house and run or walk, it'll make your body feel good and much more relaxed and it'll get you out of that house where the old man is driving you crazy! courage!

Answer 8

You have to take care of YOU. Find a way to let his crap go and just make yourself #1. Relax when you can, even if it means going out to rest in the park. Make yourself the goal that you want to reach, that fatass won't be there for you so you do it.
Good luck

Answer 9

Light a scendted candle that you love, breathe nice slow deep breaths, and every morning when you wake up, ask your guardian angel to come and be with you in your day, and to soothe your spirit. You do not have to be one religion in particular to believe in prayer and the work of guardians. Also, whenever you think of your step-father, imagine him in a bubble of beautiful pink or purple light. This is what you can do to shift him on an unspoken level. Do it every time you think of him. Send him good energy instead of fear or upset. Believe me, he will stop hassling you if you keep doing this with your mind. What do you have to lose by trying this?

Answer 10

If you can get away for a week and enjoy your self. just relax, My mom is 93, and I am the only one taking care of her, and I get pretty stressed out. but its not her fault. I usually go to my room or for a drive and sit somewhere to get relaxed. or soak in the bath tub for a while. it helps me. good luck.