2007-03-27 14:52:09 · 21 answers · asked by journalist_lucille 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is probably doing it for one of a few reasons:
1. She actually likes him to but you told her first and she felt bad telling you
2. She only wants him because you do
3. She is the kind of girl who does not have very high self-esteem and needs guy attention to feel good.
The only thing to do is confront her. If she tells you it is reason #1 than decide on what is more important to you, this guy or your friendship with her....Could you see yourself being ok with it if she ended up dating him or would she be ok with the opposite? If so than you might be ok, just keep everything out in the open. If she denies it then it means that most likely it is reason #2 or #3, and I would initially accept it and watch her closely, and if it continues I would tell her that you no longer value her friendship if she can't respect your feelings. Some people are just flirtly in nature, but as long as you tell her in a non-threating way that her actions hurt you, then you are giving her a fair chance to either stop or lose your friendship. I know this sounds harsh but sometimes it is better to know who your real friends are. In the end you may not have to cut her off completely, but at least you will know that you can't really trust her. Girls can be evil, but my advice to you is to recognize that not everyone is trustworthy or a true friend.
2007-03-27 15:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation can be difficult. It depends how you really feel about the crush. I had a best friend that starting flirting with a major crush that I had and I never said anything and she went out with him. But now it was okay because I didn't want to loose my friend over a guy. But also make sure that this a true friend and don't let her still all your crushes away. Keep your friends close and follow your heart.
2007-03-27 15:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, does your friend know you like this person? If not, inform them. Second, sometimes people don't know when they're flirting. So let them know you like that person and it's kind of bugging you. If they continue doing it they're either just not a very good friend or they really don't consider what they are doing flirting. Either way don't wreck a friendship over something like that. Crushes come and go...I know it seems like a big deal now, but sooner or later you'd realize a friend means much more..despite their selfish actions.
2007-03-27 14:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she knows that u like him then shes triflin & i wouldnt call her my friend... But if she doesnt know then either tell her or jus let her do her thing cause if u try 2 break it up then u would be triflin...
If he flirt back wit her then he might not want u...
Jus talk 2 ur friend & both of u shold jus forget about this guy cause he aint worth the end of a friendshp!
2007-03-27 15:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off, does your friend know you like this person? if not than you cant blame her for it.. she doesnt know any better.. but if she does know it, than you might have a problem.. but there again, she could suffer from a little known disease called MFS. (im jsut kidding about the disease thing.. its just a thing me and my friend made up for an excuse..) MFS is short for Major Flirt Syndrome. and its basically when you dont realize your flirting because you do it so much.. i know stupid.. lol
talk to your friend.. communication is key.
2007-03-27 14:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know its your crush?
If not you might wanna tell her.
If she does know, she isn't being a very good friend.
If she is a good friend she's respect your space and stop.
I'd just tell your crush you like him and go for it. If he doesnt like you back move on and find someone better.
If someone doesnt like you for who you are, then they arent worth it.
Good luck
2007-03-27 14:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by jenimiper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her its not right and that u dont like it. if she doesnt even like the guy, then maybe shes doing it to get on UR nerves. then that probly means shes not a real friend. but if shes not even aware of it, make her realize what shes doing and how its affecting u. but if u both like the same guy...u cant expect her not to. one person has to make the move, u cant just "claim" him. just saying....
2007-03-27 14:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing...if he likes me then her flirting won't matter...if he likes her then I need to let go any ideas of him and move on anyway.
2007-03-27 14:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
May the best lady win
2007-03-27 14:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by tlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It already happened to me,I told her enjoy being with him and good luck too,and I moved on,so try to move on. GOOD LUCK dear
2007-03-27 15:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by darla_1963 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋