cant take it anymore what 2 do?

Question

my life is just aint going right,me and my boyfriend of 11 months who i really love starting to fall apart,my mom is getting child suport and not givin me a penny,need clothes 4 skool and the kids keeps keep talking bout me plus im failing school wit two d`s,one c and an f and i probably wont be able to fufill my dream to sing im about to blow someone help my mind is about to bust

Answer 1

OK, I know life seems out of control right now, but things are going to get better. The best thing for you to do is to make a list of your problems in order of priority. I know it sounds obvious, but school should be #1, and the kids at school should be last. Take each problem at a time and figure out what you need to do to make them better.

If you are failing a class, go to the teacher and ask about tutoring or extra credit, and start studying HARD. It will be worth it in the long run.

Talk to your Mom about getting new school clothes. It is possible that she is completely oblivious to the fact that you need new clothes. If she is is keeping the money from the child support and not supporting you with it, maybe you need to go live with the responsible parent (the one writing the checks) or you need to talk to social services about getting into a foster home if you feel that your mother can't care for you.

If you want to sing- SING. Reward yourself by singing for 15 minutes after ever hour you study. The more you sing, the better you will get, and your chances of making it career will grow. However, if that career doesn't take off right away, you are going to want an education to fall back on.

Talk to your boyfriend. If he loves you, he will support you and help you through this tough time. If he can't or won't help, then he's not right for you. Anyone who isn't trying to make you life better is bringing you down, and you should shed then from your life in order to make yourself a better person.

You are going to be ok. Just take each goal one day at a time and believe in yourself. Don't worry about the kids at school. They will be taking your order at Wendy's when you roll up in your limo after a concert one day!

Answer 2

Ok, #1, dump the b/f. #2- concentrate on school work & get those grades up or ur dreams WON'T come true. U'll never get anywhere w/o an education. # 3- r u 16? if so, get a prt. time job & buy ur own clothes. U're far too young for all this stress, calm down, take it easy, don't get so worked up . Can u go stay w/ ur Dad for a while? Seems like a chg. would do u some good. If u have a good relationship w/ ur Dad, tell him ur Mom won't buy u school clothes & ask him if he will. By the way, why won't she buy ur clothes? That's what child suport is for, besides paying all the bills so u have a place to live & food in the house. Good Luck! I hope things work out for u.

Answer 3

Do not ever loose your dream because things are not going the way you want. Dreams are how we get to our goals. It sounds like you need some help financially, so why don't you get a babysitting job, or something that will give you some money, so you can buy new cloths. If your boyfriend loves you , he would find a way to help you instead of leaving you. I would say, bye bye to him, as there is always another one. Focus on you, and forget what other people say about you. If you become a proffessional singer one day everybody is going to talk about you, some good some bad. Just let all that nonsense go, and really concentrate on you., and what you can do to change things, in your life. You can do it. Your Mom, like every parent out there has bills, and it is very hard being single, raising a family, so do not blame poor mom, just find a fun job with maybe a friend or relative, or ask your father for some help. Good Luck............

Answer 4

Life seems so complex when your a kid. Its because all you can see is the crowded little space in front of you. Think about the bigger picture, look at your situation as an outsider, youll see that your problems are only temporary. if cloths is such a problem, tell your father to go to court with it, set up an account in your name specifically and keep track of the money he puts in, Both of you can let the judge know that the money your father gives her doesnt go to your needs. Although im sure she spends it on other stuff for you like bills, your not cheap you know. who do you think pays the water you bath with or the electricity that turns your computer on, or the food that keeps you alive. You should sit down with your mom and ask her how much she pays in bills. If its just you and her, half that amount, see if that child support even coves half, Im sure it doesnt. Thats what im saying, look into the long run, someday youll look back and youll barley remember that 11 month relationship, cause youll have completed you 10 year anniversary with your husband.

Answer 5

I've been there. TO be honest, it's harder to recover later. People who normally read my answers usually read that I tell people to go work out.

I'm not going to tell you this.

What I am going to say is, that your boyfriend of 11 months...might matter now. in 5 years it won't. If you don't love him, then forget him. It's not easy but life never is.

I pay child support, if my daughter told me her mother isn't giving her any of it and she was 16 or so, I would give her money specifically. Tell your father, no matter what kind of a jerk he might be, he'll love you no matter what your mother says.

School: The easiest thing to say is to just study harder. No, I won't say this.
What I will say is to change up the way you learn. When I went back to college (several years after I graduated from highschool) I started sitting in the front, front and center, I took notes like a mad person. Anything that was up on the board I put in the notes. At lunch I'd look at these notes several times and try to understand.

Music, I won't say giveup on your dreams, but I did. Do I regret it? Yes and no. Don't give up. Sing when you arnt studying or driving. :-)

I hope some of this helps, good luck.

Answer 6

Talk to a school guidance counselor, talk to a professional therapist, talk to SOMEONE real (not the internet) about this.


I've been in much much much much worse situations and it always works out (especially when it looks most like there's no way it will work out!) as long as you are willing to sit through the bad stuff.

It's never any fun but everything passes and your feelings cannot kill you --- and they will pass too!

Chances are, if you are concerned about school --- your life should not be about a boyfriend anyways and you will not be losing as much as you think --- you'll probably learn so much from this experience that next time something bad happens you will know you can get through it and it will be easier than it is now.

Whatever you do, start thinking about solutions and stop thinking about problems --- the problems only get worse when you focus on them and solutions only get better and bigger when you think about those

Answer 7

Talk to a counselor at school--ASAP. Let the counselor know your concerns and your mother should be using that money to help you with clothing, food and shelter. There is usually a local line set up through social service agencies in each county to help kids. Look up your human services in your county and find a number to call for help. You can remain anonymous when you call, maybe your mom needs help. As for the boyfriend, they come and go-when the right time comes...the right boyfriend will come into your life. Focus on your goals and spirituality. Peace to you.

Answer 8

Try to calm down and try to solve one problem at a time. First of all, if you and your bf are having problems, maybe you need some time apart. I'm sure your mom uses the child support for rent, bills, food. Try talking to her to see if maybe she can start buying 1 blouse or 1 pair of pants each time she gets money. I'm sure she'll try to. As far as your grades go, you have no one to blame but yourself. Instead of spending so much time worrying and fighting with your bf you should stay after school to make-up some of the work that you are not doing, or not doing well. Your schoolwork should come first. You need to get your priorities straight and start taking some responsibility for your own life.

Answer 9

Your grades are probably affected by all your other problems. From what you've said you are still young so dont worry about the boyfiend there is plenty more fish in the sea. You shouldn't care about what a bunch of kids say about you. Tell your father about the child support, he may get a hearing then go with him, or at least write a letter to the judge.

Answer 10

90 + % of wanna be singers and actors are unemployed .
The only ones who make it have a real job to pay the bills until the bookings come in.
BUT because you are slacking in school . . .
You won't be able to get a McD's job .
If you want to get off the looser track, and be a winner ,
Get your shiiiit together in school and forget the bf until your education is straight .
Besides , in the long haul , no guy needs some girl who's just an unemployable lump with fame fantasies.
Chill, get some sleep , and start by getting your school life in order . . .
The rest will happen later .