k, my mom hd breast cancer and I never told my friends becuz i didn't want them to either crowd around me or stay away from me. I really didn't want any special attention. And none of my friends know... except one of my very VERY close friends. Now that it is over and done with (the cancer) I need to know if I should tell them. Or would they just freak out or stare at me funny?
2007-03-27 14:32:02 · 5 answers · asked by Love is you. 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The same thing happened to me. About 5 years ago, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and went throught chemotherapy most of my first year of middle school. A lot of people knew, but none of my friends did. I DID receive special treatment from other adults in our town and I hated it, which led me to not mention the cancer to my friends. However, all my friends know now. Occasionally, I come accross someone who didn't know, usually because I talk openly about it to just about anyone. When I tell someone for the first time, they usually just feel sorry for me until I tell them that she's totally fine. No one treats me differently because of it. Obviously, I don't know how long ago your mom was sick. But most people realize its not a big deal when they realize its over. Of course, this is your choice. I just thought you might like to hear my experiences with the same thing.
BTW, I started telling people subtly about a year after it happened. It takes time.
2007-03-27 15:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by srgirl6391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now a days cancer isn't such a rare thing, wich is unfortunate but true, I don't think your friends will treat you any different, especially if you emphasise that fact that you don't want them to treat you different or pitty you. Just tell them you want them to know and when you need there help or support you will ask for it! Good luck and I hope everything works out!
2007-03-27 21:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like if you tell your friends and they treat you in an alienated way or something like that, I wonder what kind of real friend they really are.
Most should be supportive, understanding and hope they can do something to help you and make life more enjoyable for you to take the stress off from such a hard time.
That is my impression of how they should be.
2007-03-27 22:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by dmh7593 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you. its really not their business but sometimes telling people can help heal some of the pain and stress you might have experienced during your moms cancer. but i dont think that it is that big of a deal if they know. i mean you told your close friends and i understand that. but you dont need to go and tell the world. it is a private thing. also talk to your mom maybe she doesnt want people to know because they might look at her different but she might also want them to know and know how strong she was and that she is a survivor. the choice is yours. congradulations on your moms success in the cancer.
2007-03-27 21:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your Choice But Your friends could have been Great support to you when you was going through all this.I am Glad that your mom is remission,My Best friend died a year ago from Leukemia and I needed all the support I could get,.
2007-03-27 21:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋