I love my girlfriend butI cant get past making out with her. I've never been to 2nd base and don't know what to do when im there, I cant skip that palte. She's already sid she wont go to sex so this is as far we can go and i cant go... She thinksI'm mad ather because I wont say that i've never been to 2nd base, I need to fix this and learn more of what a girl wants done to her. Ohh and nobody give me crap for thinking im to young im in freakin hiogh school!!!!!!!!!!! I'm just a little behind on stuff like that. We've been dating for more awhile and its a long term relationship. We cant and will not have sex to that I have agreed so this is where it ends and im not there. I want to do this she wants to do this, not much else to it.
2007-03-27 14:26:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just gently caress her with your hands, over her clothing. Don't paw or grab directly at her breasts, just slowly make her feel good all over with your hands. When she's comfortable with it, you can run your hands near and around her breasts and/or inner thighs. Again, don't maul her. Just lightly caress and massage her as you talk softly and kiss. Tell her what she means to you.
She will like it, if you are careful not to scare her. Eventually, the time will be right to go under her top or into her intimate areas. She will let you know by her body language, one way or the other. Never force her... it will happen naturally if you are persistent, but gentle. She may eventually start to rub and touch you too. Only do as much as you and she can handle. There's no rush. It's not a contest.
You can enjoy soft playing and experimenting, without progressing to actual "sex". Enjoy each other in these early, innocent stages. Be careful and have fun. Above all, respect her feelings and her body. Stay in-tune to her.
2007-03-27 14:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kia A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first you need to realize, it is MUCH easier to get from third base to home (than second) and easier to get to third from second...SO if you are wanting to go furthur, keep in mind it will be harder to say no to sex.
I know you want to wait for sex and that is totally awesome. I guess my theory is if you are planning to wait for the fireworks, lighting the flowers before only makes you want the big sparks...OK SO REMEMBER, you cannot go back!
Ok so to details. I think over the years the whole concept of "bases" has changed so I will give you my 30-something idea of bases back when I was in school:
1st base - kiss
2nd base - feel breasts
3rd base- feel vagina
Home - sex
So going with that, you basically just do what feels good to both of you. For myself, I have noticed some men that are too rough at second and third and that is more of a turnoff than someone who is gentle and patient and might not know what he is doing.
You just need to COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE! Talk, ask question, be HONEST with each other :) To me that is more attractive than any moves a guy could have!
Good luck!
2007-03-27 21:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is ok dont worry all u need to do is make her and ure self feel comfortable in that situation and go slow touch her soft and be passionate with any kiss that u giver her do not be rough at all unless she asks u to do so. dont worry everything will be fine and once u do it she will tell u what she like and what she doesnt.... let me tell u my whole issue when i was a virgen i was worried of being seen naked but the rest i really wanted anything that u do sex wise is normal and what ever seems weird and crazy is what u like the most u know what? got created sex and is really important in a relationship so try it u will thank me once u do it......
2007-03-27 21:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By second base to you mean oral sex? I never understood the "BASES" so I'm gonna assume that is what 2nd base means. But I'm still not quite sure what the question is. What do you mean what should you do? You need to kiss her, be sweet and easy, and make your way around on her body! She should let you know what feels right and what doesnt!
2007-03-27 21:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do whatever you're comfortable with...making out isn't lame or anything, but if u abuse it then it takes all the fun out of everything and you always want more. you end up feeling like u always have to g further and further just to make her happy. that is so not true. if she really loves you, she wouldn't pressure you into anything and you wouldn't be stressed out about pleasing her...plus, why not save the fun stuff until after the ring is on your finger? then theres more to look forward to.
2007-03-27 21:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Surfergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is one of the keys to a good relationship. You should talk with this girl....... you should always be open and honest...... If y'all are in "love" then you will both respect each others' ideas, thoughts and emotions. Now for the crap...... "LOVE" is something you find later in life.... not in high school.......... :o) Good Luck!!
2007-03-27 21:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by Missledtngirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that both of you are not ready and are only doing it for the other person. Hold off on "trying" and wait till it comes naturally. You won't need any lessons.
2007-03-27 21:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say you've never really been to 2nd base.....?
and explain that you're not mad at her as well.
however i dont understand the "we have agreed to not have sex so it ends here" part...
does it end at '2nd base'? or does it end at making out? you both should have a talk about this, mayhaps...
2007-03-27 21:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by evita2usally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what. I'm going to give you that crap anyway. You're in 'freakin hiogh school!!!!" *nice spelling btw* Think of it this way, if she gets pregnant, then what are you going to do?
2007-03-27 21:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm not going to go through that, but I think it's nice that you didn't lose yourself in middle school and that you actually respect her.
2007-03-27 21:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋