When am I gonna get over this???

Question

I was raped by my uncle when I was nine years old. I have been having horrible flashbacks/nightmares..I can't sleep at night because I feel like someone is watching me and I know when I do go to sleep I am going to have the same flashback/nightmare that I always have. I am so sick of being afraid of everything. Not a day goes by that I don't think about it, I am ready to give up and end it all, but I that is not the answer..although I am ready to try it..How can I move past this and get on with my life. I am 19 now, so it has been 10 years since it happened. I just 'remembered' that it happened about 3 years ago and I just reported it about a month ago. I never have any time to go to a therapist because of work, and I cant really afford an online therapist...any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance

Answer 1

I feel for you,
repression isn't a good thing,
for when we do remember, it brings so much more
to the table than what we were ready to bear.

I can't say the nightmares will stop, but if you can
speak to someone, anyone hun!!!
They might subside once you realize you're now safe.

There are sooo many support groups,,,,
even just good friends,
us here,,,,we will listen,
but please STAY WITH US!!!!

more than 3/4 of rapes that occur
do not get reported,
bravo for you for being SO brave!!!
and it being family at that!!!!-stay strong!!!!

There are ways to get help without paying an arm and a leg,
ask someone, call a hotline,,,,you can get help,
and there are people out there,
Make sure you check out the links these other folks have
listed, and call those hotlines, pick one or call them all!
Whatever works for you, to make you feel safe again.

Take a self defense course? Self help class? Cooking?
Take up meditation? Yoga?A Journal? A Book?
Find a release-it WILL be a HUGE help....

Dont forget where to find us, we're just a click away....

Answer 2

You are experiencing PTSD, post traumatic stress disorder. The best way to resolve the issue is to see a qualified counselor, which can be a licenses social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist. Call the local Rape Crisis Center and ask for victims assistance. They can begin the counselor toward the healing process as well as possible provide financial assistance.

You want a face-to-face therapist who will not only use what you say but what you show in body language. And, you need to make the time to begin the counseling. Many counselors work hours beyond the standard 8 to 5. Also, if you call your State operator and ask to be connected to your local mental health center, which charges on a sliding fee scale.

Answer 3

Well this is what i think you are not going to get over it you should not pressure yourself to get over it nor should any one else this is something that time is going to have to heal just never put yourself in the same environment as him try not to think about it as much as you possibly can i am sure you have some good things in your life to focus on he should never get the satisfaction of knowing that you lay awake every night no its not far and not right beat him and the evil and try your best to move on to bigger and better things that await you in (your) life god bless you and protect you good luck

Answer 4

listen i am in the same boat... i was abused in a manner that is too horrible to describe here.... i repressed the memory for twenty years.... i was eight and i am almost thirty now... therapy did not help me at all... i can honestly say this, you probably won't ever get over it but you better start learning how to live with it because if you don't you will become consumed by it... but i began to understand alot more about myself and i think that i am not at peace about it.. he hurt you once don;t let him ruin the rest of your life... don;t give him that power... do yourself a favor and fight for yourself.. make time to try therapy it might help you more than it did me...

Answer 5

geta free one metanoia.org, asktheinternettherapist.com. call 1800 lifenet. alos talk to me i'm willing to help u thru. i have helped ppl out by just listening and giving good advice. [e-mail]. i'm here ok do not cry. call 1800 656 hope. a rape line. try also www.rainn.org. hold on please.

Answer 6

this is a matter that you have to get help for. you can not deal with this alone. First you need to want to help yourself get better, not having the time is a lame excuse. please seek help foma mental health care provider

Answer 7

Please get help from a rape crisis center. Make time in your
schedule. This is so important for your well-being.