discipline?

Question

what is a good age to actually start discipling your children and what are good ways

Answer 1

you start when they are baby's with words and touch a child under 2 should never be spanked hand holding picking up and removing child from what they are doing will work you can start time outs as soon as the child gets Mobile use the playpen if the child is getting into something you tell them no show them what they are not to get into and put them in the playpen for a few min

Answer 2

It definitely varies by age. When they are crawling or can get into things, then is the time to set the boundaries for their safety as far as what can be touched and what should not be touched. I believe in a light tap on the hands when "no" does not work. I was spanked when I was younger too. Although I do not remember any of them, I know I must have been because I feared the fly swatter enough to know what was coming if I did not straighten up. I believe that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. Each child is going to respond differently to different disciplines. Of course with older children, taking away priveleges is the best thing. I know the worst thing you can do to a teenage girl is take away her phone--or internet now. I see the effects of not disciplining children at an early age with my job and I also see the abuse of discipline. With discipline, especially if the child has discipline problems, it is always imperative that you highlight and reward when they do right. My son is 5 and sitting down to explain to him why I punished him is helpful when he makes the same mistakes or when he avoids making them because he is able to expect the consequences and also tell me how he avoided them. The best advice to give on spanking is to not spank when you are really mad. Take a time out or count to 10 before you raise your hand or anything else to spank. It is when you are mad that you cannot control yourself and can inadvertently do something to harm your child.

Answer 3

When they are old enough to start being defiant (ie: when they start saying NO!). You can not really discipline them until they realize that they do not have to automatically do what you say. I mostly used time outs (1 minute for every year of age) until they were 5 or so. By then they are old enough to somewhat understand consequences for their actions and would get grounded from privileges or have toys taken away. A couple of times (like the time I caught my oldest trying to pry the safety cover off the electric outlet) I swatted their hands. I know a lot of people do not believe in that, but for me, it was not hard enough to hurt them, but because I did not routinely spank or yell at them, it was enough to startle them and reinforce that it was dangerous.

Answer 4

Great question...I am a new mother to a 5 week old...Yikes! I'm no expert but I think you introduce discipline as they start understanding things....Like when they start crawling/ walking and touch things they are not supposed to...It is appropriate to tell them "NO"....Then as they get older (maybe 2) you have to start having consequences with your discipline. I truly think this is key....We go through life as adults with consequences of our actions and I think children need to learn that at an early age. Maybe they have to go to bed early, or cant watch their favorite show, etc.....

Good luck. I'm anxious to see other answers. :-)

Answer 5

even if yur child is still a baby, you should start disciplining him on the most gentle ways.even at those ages, he is already a learner.there are attitudes which already develop during babyhood which needs straightening up.

Answer 6

I would say around the time they learn to walk. My daughter understood what no meant around that time. I was able to distinguish what could be touched, where to be able to walk, and what not to put in mouth around that age. May be young, but you'll be surprised how much they understand.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Whatever you use be CONSISTANT...I use time out as soon as they can understand...