She sometimes asking why i dont get married with a girl and i'll be happier and safe, she migth mean dont being alone for the rest of my life, coz' i am gay, (100% and i love it)... but you girls, waht do you think about this; a gay guy and you dont know it, make you fall in love with him, but he is hidding this for the rest of his life? Do you this is fair for you or him?
How can you feel if you find out? please honest answers, thank you!
2007-03-27 13:41:05 · 20 answers · asked by Hey Guyz! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't lie to yourself, or someone else. You should be proud of who you are! To be anything but 100% you isn't fair because it can both ruin your chances of finding someone you actually want to spend your life with, and dash some poor girls dreams, because you can't live a lie forever and eventually she will find out.
It may seem "easier" to go the conventional route, but it's anything but. Be true to yourself.
2007-03-27 13:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by alisha_4080 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to live the way you want to live, bro. No one knows if they'll get married, have children, or live happily ever after. Sure, you can try to make things happen, but sometimes people get divorced, can't have children, or end up miserable or depressed. Anyway, be gay if you want to be gay. Don't hide it, it's true it's not fair to everyone. This is all from a straight guy's point of view, so I suppose that if I had a friend that was gay and didn't tell me, and he fell in love with me, there would be a problem. I guess I would be flattered in a gay sort of way, but I'm just not like that, so you'd be shot down pretty hard. But you'd get over it because you're gay and happy, and you'd find someone else soon after. That's about all I got to offer you for advice. Good luck, bro!
2007-03-27 20:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this even a question to ask?
If a person falls in love with you, then the presumption is that you are being HONEST in the first place! Then you make a living hell for yourself because you are not being who you truly are.
This is clearly a recipe for disaster.
So if this person is gay, then don't traumatize some poor girl by getting them involved in some Jerry Springer drama that is totally unecessary, especially in this day and age!
2007-03-27 20:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did that to me I would probably kill you. I have nothing against gay guys and have many gay friends but I would want to know ahead of time if you were gay so I could make a good decision about whether to marry you or not. It could cause a lot of problems down the road if you try to fool someone like that for a long period of time.
2007-03-27 20:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by sissyd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to learn to respect that your gay, she knows right? If your mom wants you to get married how would she feel if you married another man?
I wouldn't lead a girl on if your gay, that is totally uncool.
My mom has been hinting that I should get married too, however I am straight and looking for girls, but jeez marriage? Mothers are kind of funny that way
2007-03-27 23:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I take it that your mother know you are homosexual (gay). Now, she want you to settle down with a heterosexual woman and get married. Ask your mother if she is 'butch' and if this is what she did to your father.
You admit to being 100% gay. Fine! Now! Firmly, tell that butch mother of yours that you will not tolerate any more asinine discussions from her, regarding your personal life.
2007-03-27 20:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong for the guy to hurt the girl like this and if he is gay stay that way. Leave the woman alone.
2007-03-27 20:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Alone again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) Marriage should be based on trust and truth.
2.) You would never be able to conceal your true self.
3.) Your mother needs to understand that you will not get married.
It would be unfair, and would make you and your "fake" wife very unhappy.
I think it is better if your mother understands you will not be happy or safe in a traditional marriage.
2007-03-27 20:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is concerned for you, and probably wants Grand kids. It's her job to be concerned for her, but to go out and lie to yourself or to a girl to please your mother is very wrong. No women wants to be hurt and lied to like that, and it's uncalled for. You need to talk with your mom and help her see that her concerns are unfounded, and when you find the right guy... if that's even passable? maybe that's why she so concerned you'll be left signal forever.lol sorry I couldn't help it everyone knows about guys and commitment.
Well I hope this helped.
2007-03-27 20:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by mynameismebutidontknowdidit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the most horrible things anybody can do to another person. It is NOT fair and you take away the woman's chance at happiness. Do not even THINK of doing this to please your mom. IF she does love you way you are, she would never want this for you. You deserve happiness as well.
2007-03-27 20:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋