I need help!! I have a serious problem...I constantly lie and cheat and I don't know why..its like a different person takes over my body.. I dont know if I have a disorder or if Im just a liar.. I have herd to try to stop and take actions upon what you are doing and saying, and I have tried it... but its not working.. its costing me EVERYTHING!!!! My grades, my acting carrer, and my family relationships! What do I do?
2007-03-27 13:31:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Admit to yourself that your life is worth too much to ruin by a stupid bad habbit. Thats is really the only thing that is wrong. Its a bad habbit and you break it the same way you break other bad habbits. You paint your nails will gross nail polish to stop biting them so find something that works to the same effect as the nail polish. Tell yourself that every lie you tell is just another good thing in your life gone. Practice. It may also help if you become comfortable with who you really are because that may be part of the problem. Embrace your personality and be proud of it.
2007-03-27 13:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seems like you have extremely low self-esteem. I am not a psych, but have known women in similar situations. Usually the lying about anything and everything(even things you have no reason to lie about) is get get accepted into whatever situation it may be in. For example you may lie about your education to hang around people that have degrees and doctorates. You may lie to impress somebody or you may lie simply to avoid responsibility of your actions. Once you begin to get away with little lies then you attempt bigger ones where eventually you can't distinguish between the two as it has become habbitual and part of your everyday life. This then evolves into much more serious consequences where the "little white lies" can have a serious effect on another person. For example, Cheating on your partner, husband etc. You simply assume you can do anything and get away with it because you can lie your way out of it. As I mentioned, I have known a few women in similar situations and all I can say is the very famous saying"you get what you bargined for" or "what goes around comes around" will eventually cross paths with you. Fix your problems now becuase in the END, you are going to be the one paying the price either by being left out of the circle because society is tired of your **** or who knows, your lying could get you in bigger trouble(leading to theft at work would be an example) and you may simply end up behind bars. SEEK Professional help or even one of those hypnotists.Glad you asked the question but it won't be solved hear!Good Luck!
2007-03-27 13:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by rnhard7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, think of how those people must feel when you lie. There is no such thing as a little lie or a white lie, they are all lies and they hurt people. Then think of how you would feel if they lie to you about something important and you find out!....think about it and try and take a deep breath every time you feel like lieing...because is always good to do the right thing!
2007-03-27 13:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by K11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding the real you, by learning how to centre yourself. Practice for 20 minutes daily, preferably morning, afternoon and evening, the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "honesty", or gaze at a lighted candle in a quiet, darkened room. See your counselor. Slow your response in conversations: count quickly to 5; this will interrupt your usual mental process, and give you time to think about the best truthful answer, which may sometimes be: "Can I have a little time to consider my answer?", or "I don't feel that I can respond properly to that at the moment." Eventually, you will reprogram yourself to respond truthfully, and can return to normal response speed. I would also start doing things to help other people, like writing letters in support of prisoners of conscience for Amnesty International, or spending a couple of hours a fortnight helping Meals on Wheels, or one of the hundreds of worthwhile organisations or charities that need help, like Greenpeace, or animal shelters. This would increase your self esteem AND help them. You would then not feel the need to impress others by lying, but would have something positive (and verifiable) that you could mention on the odd occasion, by trying to recruit them, for example.
2007-03-27 15:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you admit that you are lying. Every time you tell a lie, stop yourself and say "Hey, that was a lie". After a while, you won't tell lies at all.
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Turn your lies into stories. Instead of lying orally, write a story about things. In the end, you might realize that you are a good story teller.
2007-03-27 13:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by A L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lying to yourself about who you are first of all, so figure out who you are and then everything else should fall right into place!!! You don't have to lie for people to love you! It makes for an ugly person. Good luck!
2007-03-27 13:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Norcalmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
then you just may want to seek professional help so that you can pinpoint the problem.. is there something that has happen in you life that has caused you to not trust people.
2007-03-27 13:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by mysterious_yet_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop lieing, thats what you do. Now did you really need me to tell you that.
2007-03-27 13:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U SOUND LIKE ME! I FALL INTO THAT HABIT ONLY IF I CAN'T THINK STRAIGHT! I START TO SAY THINGS AT RANDOM! NOW I'M FREAKING OUT, SO ME AND U ARE REALLY SCREWED!
2007-03-27 13:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by faileider_lucky7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the ghettobooty-ness everyone loves flat asses hunny! =] We have more fun.
2007-03-27 13:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋