Ok I have been dating this great guy for about a month.And this guy is better than all the other guys I have dated, my ex and I broke up because I was confused and I made a stupid mistake after that I learned alot about relationships.But every time he has tried just being friends with me I blew it but i finally realized because we have too much history we could never be friends.And Im cool with that and im over him cause he didnt treat me like this guy does and its only the beginning for us.So my question is why do I keep dreaming about my ex? like 3 times a week. Some times we get back together and some times we fight or sometimes were just friends.But a while ago I put all my energy into having him forgive me i had friends IMing him and it was so stupid and now im totally done with that and its just weird.And I want to be able to not even think about him.
2007-03-27 13:29:49 · 11 answers · asked by Leesha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing for you to do is have some time alone..how would you feel if your new guy was dreaming about his ex??????? have a break and sort yourself out.
2007-04-04 08:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone has mentioned, dreaming about your ex is normal.
You are subconsciously looking for a resolution to your feelings about the relationship. Things like: what irritated me about him, how could I have said/done to tone down the emotional conflicts, why didn't he treat me better? and other personal thoughts and feelings. You're trying to forgive him in your dreams, but more importantly you are trying to forgive yourself for making mistakes in the relationship, too.
You are also subconsciously comparing your ex's behavior to the new guy's behaviour. Your mind is trying to balance everyting on a subconscious level. You know it is working because this relationship seems to be better.
As anxiety provoking as it seems, you are developing relationship skills and your dreams are helping you with that. This is a good thing. Don't berate yourself, there are plenty of others out there that are more than willing to do it for you. Don't start being your own worst enemy. You are the best friend you've got.
You are right about the history. It will fade in time, but right now it's teaching you how to get through the situation. Good luck.
2007-04-04 19:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sound to me like you have unresolved fealings twards him. Maybe part of you misses being with him. That's 100% normal. If he really did treat you badly then just focus on how much better this new guy is too you. Once you start gettin really close your new guy you won't even think about your ex.
2007-04-04 17:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. I think we all do it a little bit. Maybe if you were concentrating so hard on not dreaming about him you would just stop. Or maybe subconsciously you still don't feel that things are right between you. Over time it will pass.
2007-04-04 19:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Butterflies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that it is weird. It is perfectly normal to dream about ur ex!
2007-03-27 20:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lexy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They said your dreams are what your subconscious mind wants ...Ask your self..do you still want your ex back?
2007-04-04 17:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by just like you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal..I believe its your system getting rid of them.
2007-04-04 19:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by Pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite normal it happens to the best of us
2007-04-04 17:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by sliverwings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal
2007-04-04 20:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by govtagent_2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dream about mine all the time
2007-03-27 20:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by cowanelmo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋