I'm a freshmen and I go to a VERY small highschool, with about less than 800 kids, I love it there is no violence, or anything! But I have a promblem. I feel so left out in my family there. I have about 10 cousins, and I'm so different from them because I'm nice and quiet. My Brother is a sophmore and is the star football player on the varasity team, and my other 5 cousins play football too. They are very outgoing, and ot shy and have alot of friends. I'm quiet, I'm a really good swimmer on my swim team, and I just don't fit in with them is that good or bad?? Since my cousins are older than me everytime I move up to a hgher level he teacher is always like, are you sure you're apart of your family, your so quiet and nice. I feel terrible and I get really upset and I feel like I don't belong. Also girls use me sometimes to get to my brother because they like him, should I just be myself or be like my family? I feel out of place! Please help!
2007-03-27 13:27:56 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ElizabethAnne♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, my family is nice to everyone I just feel leftout and I'm the only girl in my family who isn't a cheerleader!
2007-03-27 13:29:04 · update #1
You have to be your own person. You have to do what you want to do and follow your own dreams. It's okay to be different and not follow the pack. It is hard feeling out of place and like you don't fit in...but if you have a long talk with your mom I'll bet that you will find that you hold a special place in your family and in everyone's heart....you just haven't seen it yet. Don't worry about teachers compareing you to the others....that could be a good thing in the long run!! Someone has to break the mold so to speak.
And you are not alone with the brother thing either...many girls have popular "star" big brothers and find themselves with "friends" that are there just to see the guy. You'll figure out how to tell them from your real friends...and then it will stop. Stay strong and true to yourself being a teen is hard work and full of big problems that can work themselves out with some quiet heart to heart talks with Mom's or Dad's. They are alot smarter than you think! Remember if it isn't going to affect your life in 10 years it isn't worth worrying over! Take care & best wishes
2007-03-27 13:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I was the same way in High School. You should be happy that people notice how sweet and content you are. Try not to feel so out of place. I know how hard it can be in high school;but when you get out into the real world you find many people like yourself. If you must...try to say hi to everyone you meet, and always keep a smile on your face. You could also try to find a new friend. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-03-27 13:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by twinklestars211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it--the world needs more than football players. Everyone is made for something different in this world. Although they appear as stars now in highschool--they have much much living to do. Once they are out in the "real world"--people could care less--it's a whole new game. Just be yourself and know you are great and will do great things in this world. Peace to you.
2007-03-27 14:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by MicG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels this way, in my experience and in knowing hundreds of other people and talking with them about their high school experiences...
What you will have to do is learn to accept yourself! It sounds like you have a lot in your favor (you're friendly, caring, successful in your sport, etc), but for some reason this isn't enough for you. Consider that, because when I was in high school, i was in the same boat you are, feeling like an outsider sometimes even in my own social group... but I never considered that it had a lot more to do with me accepting me than with anyone else accepting me.
If you suspect a girl of using you to get to your brother, tell them not to be such pansies and to go talk to him themselves!
Basically, cheer up if you can, almost everyone feels as you do in high school (even the "popular" kids in their own way). Your problem is you accepting you, not them accepting you!
2007-03-27 16:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Steve C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 20:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by foecking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, pretending to be who you are not will make you unhappy,
2007-03-27 13:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by rugbygirl707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself, you are you.
and that is a plus
2007-03-27 13:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋