how do you tell your bf to stop doing weed. i love him and everything and i cry everyday cuz of that and i dont want to brake up with him wat do i do
2007-03-27 13:22:49 · 25 answers · asked by Varsity girl!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just let him know its either you or the weed,, he CAN'T have both. Weed is not only illegal, its to expensive. You don't need it and frankly NEITHER does he. Simple little thing like weed and drugs cause way to many problems. God bless you for staying away from it and trying to help him.
2007-03-27 13:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may actually be hard for you to take, but the BEST advice I can give you is to stop seeing him.
People may disagree with me but you need to decide what's best for you. People that do drugs are in active addiction and part of that addiction is denial. They will make a hundred excuses, they will tell you that everyone is doing it, they will even tell you that they don't have a problem with it and they can stop whenever they want to.
But the truth is that he is in the grips of addiction and YES you can be addicted to weed! Addiction is progressive, which means that if he doesn't seek help, he will only get worse and sometimes go to stronger drugs.
You should not have to suffer through that.
So you should give him an ultimatum - tell him that he has to choose between you or the drugs and you will know what choice he makes by whether or not he quits. Just be strong and stick with your ultimatum.
Best of luck to you.
2007-03-27 20:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to open up a line of communication about weed. The thing is that you might have to prepare yourself for the fact that he might not want to give up smoking, and what are you prepared to do when he says that he's just not going to stop? another bad scenario is that he can tell you he'll stop, and than smoke it behind your back. On the positive side he may quit, but the only person you can control is you.
I had an ex boyfriend who use to smoke, I left him once because of weed, he told me he stooped, but than a few months latter he was smoking again. I don't believe he ever stooped! He just got better at hiding it. We broke up, and soon after I meet the man I married. I couldn't stand him smoking and he was not willing to stop I did much better after we broke up.
Well I hope things work out for you both! God Bless you and him!
2007-03-27 20:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by mynameismebutidontknowdidit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone here has great answers and I agree. But You cannot change him. And you do not want to I imagine. But something in you has changed so the weed is no longer kosher. And that is fine. So you tell him how you feel about the drugs now. And if he agrees with you then the plot thickens. If not you need to get a grip and move on. Adapt your life to the changes you go though. Don't try to change the world around you.
2007-03-27 20:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Brown Sug. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll learn that you can't make anyone do anything- you should really believe that because it's true. You can tell him what you think is best for him, but he may not be open to it. I think that you should leave him even though you don't want to. It's probably the best thing for you. Sometimes people have others in their life who use drugs, and it's harder to cut them out because they're family, ect. If he's just your boyfriend do yourself a favor and let it go, especially because it's making you so upset.
2007-03-27 20:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say tell him how badly he's hurting you by doing that, tell him that you cry every single night because of him. if he really loved you he would stop doing it for you, if he doesn't then he needs to get a life fur sure. keep on bugging him about it and if he doesn't stop in the next like moth or so tell him u cant deal with it and try to move on.
2007-03-27 20:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by ilovemusic5669 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to tell him you want him to stop smoking pot. Because it hurts you to see him like that and are afraid it will cause the two of you to break up. Tell him just what you feel about it and be honest. But not when he has just smoked when he is sober. Always stand up for what you want and believe and not settle for less.
2007-03-27 20:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stand up for your values. it's a common misconception that a girl can cause a guy to change, but in reality it never happens or at least not for long. you'll double the respect everybody else has for you if you hold true to your own values and dumpt this guy if he's doing something you don't like and he won't stop.
2007-03-27 20:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by pleaserallday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a bf like that too...
just say if u really love me you will stop doing weed
if he doesnt take it away from him or just say im not kissing u cuz u smell bad and itll make him stop
i broke up wit mine cuz hhe lied and said he never drank or anything and he cheated on my when he got high
2007-03-27 20:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by someebeooddyyy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an easy one - break up with him.. he'll get the picture. You don't need someone who does that... You'll get over it by moving on and getting a better boyfriend - he'll get over it by getting high and dropping out of school and loosing all his teeth by the age of 30.
2007-03-27 20:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋