I'm a girl who is taking a guy to Prom. He is a Junior and we've been friend for all of high school. We are going strictly as friends, as he has a girlfriend. Formally, I asked him to Prom, but he had expressed prior interest and essentially asked me to ask him to Prom, although without being that forward.
Now it's time to buy tickets. I am going to pay for myself, but should I also pay for him?
I feel as if I should because he is a Junior and it is my Prom but I also feel that since he approached me about it first, he should pay. I normally would just pay for him without much consideration, but tickets are expensive ($125 per person, $250 for both of us) and, anticipating other Prom costs: the dress, etc., I am a little reluctant to pay for him. However, I also feel guilty about imposing the costs upon him and if I am obligated to pay for him, I am willing to do so.
So, should I pay for his ticket or should he pay? Should we go Dutch?
2007-03-27
13:22:19
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Audrey H
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I honestly have no clue why the tickets cost so much. I guess the costs of our prom are high or maybe the school makes a profit and uses the money for things completely unrelated. No clue.
And for the people who told me to go Dutch, do you mean I should pay for my ticket and he should pay for his or that I should pay for my ticket and half of his?
Thanks for all the advice.
2007-03-27
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with prom tickets being that expensive....i say go dutch! i don't know where you live or what kind of jobs you guys might have...but around here that is pretty pricey. why expect a guy to pay all of it??? if he were your boyfriend that would be another situation, but being friends there is nothing wrong with going dutch. :)
2007-03-27 13:27:31
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answered by Anonymous
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When two people are going on a date but as friends then they should each pay for their own ticket. Unless you just have lots of money lying around. I mean he is a guy and generally the guy pays, you might think that these are modern times and that now it's okay for the woman to pay, but that's how you end up with a lazy bum for a boyfriend. After you have been dating a while it's okay to pay but don't do it right off the bat. I know, I know he has a girlfriend and it's not really a date and that is another reason why he should pay for his.
2007-03-27 16:35:09
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answered by noone 6
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When I read your prices, I went "holy sh#@!" Why don't you say the hell with prom and do something more fun that won't be as expensive? $125 per person? That's ridiculous. If you REALLY REALLY want to go, I'd say since you're not technically a "couple" (you said you're just friends) you should each pay for your own ticket. but again, sounds like the coolest thing to do would be to say screw the prom and then you wouldn't have to bother wasting your money on something you're not going to remember in five years anyway.
2007-03-27 13:28:43
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answered by idog 2
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Technically, it should be your treat. But I do see your point about how this situation arose, so I think you could get away with raising the issue with him, if you can't really afford his ticket and your parents aren't willing to help out.
And, I really think you should find out what's behind the $125 price tag. It's seems wildly over the top to me (and I live in New York)
2007-03-27 16:46:48
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answered by Anonymous
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$125 per person? Wow! How can anybody afford that? $250 per couple, they'd better have lots and lots of expensive stuff there. A full dinner, a "name" band, etc.
Talk your situation over with your date. Maybe you should go Dutch.
2007-03-27 13:30:45
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answered by kiwi 7
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I say wear a prom dress, and he wear a tux and go to a fine restaurant with dancing, and classy dessert, and fine dining.
That alone will set you back a $95 only.
But if you insist on the memory, I would go to prom, but you'll have to save for the both of you.
2007-03-27 14:19:15
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answered by DREENA 2
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Considering he has a girlfriend and you guys are going as friends, suggest you split the costs. For example, offer to pay for his tux rental and dinner if he buys the tickets, etc. That way it's easier and less awkward than paying 50% of everything.
2007-03-27 13:33:22
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answered by Anonymous
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The costs should be split 50/50.
Why are the tickets so expensive!?
2007-03-27 13:43:23
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answered by Anonymous
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I agree with most here. Go dutch. Even if you were a romantic couple I would still say go dutch unless one of you had heaps and heaps of money lying around!
Wow, that's expensive but I bet it will be fun. :o)
2007-03-27 14:17:48
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answered by spaacedogg 3
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I say it's a Dutch date all the way. The exception is the boutonniere/corsage, it's respectful to do that for one another.
I'd love to hear some details on why the tickets are so high too, please?
2007-03-27 14:23:19
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answered by ihavethat45 4
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