what would you do for a punishment???

Question

my sister emailed me that her son got a 2 day suspension from school...... he is 13. one of his freinds was singing shoot the pig to the tune of shop the piggley wiiggley i geuss her son was doing something to annoy the students the kid that sang the song got a fine and a suspension also she doesnt know what to do take away his phone ground him from the computer...... i suggested she put him in counseling and no tv for the days he is suspended from school any suggestions serious please!!!

Answer 1

a good spanking, and grounded for a month.

Answer 2

Taking away electronic priviledges seems to be affective these days for children this age. They simply have to have computers and cell phones so they think.

Also extra chores would not hurt this child. This should not go on for ever, he can earn this back by getting a report from his teachers how well he is doing in classes. Your sister can have him right out a chart, and after each class he has the teacher check. I was good, I was disruptive, or what ever the mother decides goes on this. He does not have to pull it out in front of his class mates unless he chooses to. After a week or two of doing this, the punishments should be lifted and he can have all electronics back with the promise that he will not do this again, and if he does, then the punishment will be for longer and may even result in the diactivation of his phone.

This is merely a suggestion. I hope this helps in some small way, but he does need to learn respect. He is at an age where he wants to test boundries and he still needs to be mothered.

Answer 3

I dont think that warrants counselling - it sounds very much along the lines of children just being mischevious although it is important to punish inappropriate behaviour - I'd say grounding him full stop for a week, and taking away whatever he likes the most while hes suspended - whether that be video games, phone, computer etc. Two boring days should be enough for simply 'annoying' the other kids.

Answer 4

As a divorced mom of an ADHD/ Bipolar and ocd son I have a few suggestions {also have a 14 yr old DD}

1. find some community service for him to do, if they go to church, make him clean and help out around there.
2. make him do extra chores around the house {laundry, dishes, animals and so on}
3. earlier bedtime {does not mean sleep but it gives the parents cool down time}
4. no phone, computer or friends {limited tv} for 2 wks

Those are some of the things I do with my son, but there are more dramatic things I also have to do. Best wishes with this.

Answer 5

I'd say that your sister is going to have one very clean house after the next two days are over.

I would also have him write an essay on cause and effect so that he might better learn how his actions can affect those around him and his future. This will help to make up for some of his missed class time.

Yikes: Some people are suggesting spanking or time out in the corner. Hell-O! This is a 13 year old boy. You don't spank a 13 year old boy! Sheesh! Time out for a 13 year old? Oh brother! He'll get a good laugh out of that.

Answer 6

make him write exactly what happened...i mean you should demand first and foremost before he gets up from the kitchen table...a 1000 word (regardless of how many pages) paper on what happened, what should have happened and what his punishment should be. He should also include in the paper what steps he has done to rectify the situation..including but not limited to..saying sorry to the teacher and principal for his actions as well as asking his teacher what he can do to make up for his immaturity and what she suggested. This paper of his HAS to be grammatically PERFECT.( remember HS? rewrite/rewrite/rewrite?) and it should convince you and your husband that his punishment and desire to do it again are clear so that he will never do it again.

As I see it..this paper will take him a few days. Until the paper is done to you and your husband's satisfaction, all benefits/privileges are to be seized and when he is allowed back that is when he will take notes as far as fixing the problem by apologizing and including the result of those apologies in the paper he is writing you.

He will have to acept the punishment that he has suggested as well as the punishment that you would give him anyway. No allowance is the first thing, then go from there...

if nothing else...a few things come of all this:

1) his writing skills improve...MAKE HIM WRITE IT IN CURSIVE..where did penmanship go these days??? since he doesn't have PC privileges...

2) he learns that with actions come accountability and with rights come responsibility and he will learn to respect his teachers and leaders in general.

3) the no allowance saved you some money this month...

Answer 7

I dont understand what the child did? His friend did the singing not him? If he says he didnt do anything then I'd defend him. If he admitted to doing something wrong counseling isnt the answer if he did a childish thing. If he did anything at all take the computer, and phone for the 2 days. Taking things longer then the schools willing to punish for is over punishing him.

Answer 8

Truth be told, Thats NOT really that big a deal, Boys like shooting things at 13...I'm in a class w/ a few of em' It's not really taht big a deal, and Counsling not a good plan....Rebeling would happen. Pfft, Grounded from Phone is a good one if this is such a big deal, BUT ALL 13 year old guys annoy people. It's in their blood. I think the school is being to harsh.

Answer 9

First off, why does a 13 year old boy have a cell phone?Who paid for it and who's paying for those minutes?
Take away everything he enjoys, no phone calls on the house phone either.No cell phone, no 13 year old should have a cell phone.Teach the boy some manners, and make him learn some chores. Spanking, no but a good knock up side the head will teach this boy to RESPECT others.

Answer 10

Unless he has had problems with school in the past I wouldnt suggest counseling. She should take away his phone, tv, games, and give him a strict curfew. The school only gave him a two day suspension. What he did couldnt have been that awful, but he needs to learn that its not appropriate.

Answer 11

Don't put the kid in counseling. That is stuff that kids have done and always will do. But that doesn't mean that he should get away with it either. He needs to learn consequences for his actions. The school handled their part of it. But how is your sister going to make sure that he really doesn't watch TV? I guess she doesn't work? I think that she should ground him, take away his TV and phone. Make him do extra chores around the house. But don't put the kid in counseling.