how can i deal with my mother in law who does not like me
2007-03-27 13:09:44 · 11 answers · asked by Secret ID 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they live in my house with me i pay most of the bills but she still is very hateful towards me
2007-03-27 13:30:52 · update #1
there cannot be 2 women in on house, one has to go, [btw-I don't mean you, you're the lady of the house.]
2007-03-27 13:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you're all living together, you need to make the best out of a less than ideal situation. Be civil and polite to her, at the very least. Don't be a door mat, but measure your words, and don't voice an opinion on everything. Avoid her when you can....seriously. Be pleasant at mealtime, pull your weight with household chores, bring her a bouquet of flowers[catch her off guard], but surely, you have a room or a space to get off on your own. Sit outside during nice weather. Pay your share of the bills on time, every time. Replace the toilet paper!! Just do the right thing, and surely, she will come to respect you, even if she doesn't ever like you. Save up to move out!
2007-03-27 13:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with you in this. I do not care how a lot you're keen on anyone, when you shouldn't have ample cash to get your possess position to are living then you've got obviously no motive to get married. If you're keen on every different then what change does it make when you wait a yr or 2 with a purpose to shop up on your possess position... People make no experience commonly. Just wait WAIT WAIT! Also, You cannot cross into a wedding with fiscal occasions that could preserve you from having a position of your possess. If you've got fiscal occasions like that then you definitely significantly have to be demanding approximately greater than getting married at the moment. Its explanations like this that the divorce cost in America is over 50%
2016-09-05 18:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this most be hard my parents have lived with me and the one thing that my husband and I had to learn was not to take it out on each other.If your in laws are able set a time limit for them to stay with you if you are just helping them out like we were if they are older a need help I would look into a nursing home Try not to let the things she says bother you all mother-in -laws think they know everything I myself look forward to being a know it all mother -in - law
2007-03-27 13:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by superwomen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to have a talk with his mother. He needs to make it clear that you are his wife, you come first, and that you are going to be shown respect in your own home. There needs to be some house rules to follow. It is very hard to have family live with you. I would have your husband tell his parents that no one is going to live in stress or be uncomfortable so if things can not work they will have to make other arrangements to live so they can be happy.
2007-03-28 04:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be ye male or female, it is a big mistake to live with in-laws. The only thing you can do is be the perfect daughter/son - in - law until you can figure out or get your husband/wife to agree to find somewhere else for the in-laws to go.
2007-03-27 13:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh boy I've been there & done that, but it was my Father & sister in law & we lived w/ them
do your in laws have to live w/ you ? Do they have
health problems where they can't live on their own or can't afford to live on their own ?
if they can't afford to live on there own , some states have affordable housing , I don't know if it applys to people who no longer work, but you could call your township to find out more about it
sounds like you need to be in your home w/ out them/her
good luck
PS now that we live in our own homes, I get along GREAT w/ my in laws
2007-03-27 13:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put your foot down and tell her that is your house and as long as you live here you will respect me or you can leave .
2007-03-31 12:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a better person than I am. lol I do not envy you.
No advice. Good Luck
2007-03-27 13:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk wit ure husband about it
2007-03-27 13:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋