ok i am nineteen and my friend is 18 and she is getting married well her boyfriend just asked her but i think that she is too young she is only a 18 and she wants to do it in december. they have only been goign out four i think 8 months what do you think ?
2007-03-27 12:52:09 · 65 answers · asked by janie_2345 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I THINK PPL HERE ARE RETARDED, I GOT MARRIED AT 18, HES 25 AND WE DATED FOR THREE MONTH..IF UTS LOVE ITS LOVE. IF U DUN NO WHAT LOVE IS OFCOURSE U WONT UNDERSTAND
2007-03-27 12:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by v.n.d <3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends. Is your friend one to usually make bad decisions? Does her fiance make bad decisions on a regular basis? All in all, are they responsible? If they are, then I don't see the problem except for the fact that they do happen to be to young. Is she pregnant? That can cause problems. If she is (and I'm not trying to accuse her of anything; not at all) then I really hope that they don't feel that if she is pregnant then they have to be married. That is not the point of being married. Are you sure that your friend loves this boy? Or does she think she loves this boy? It may seem like love, and maybe it is, I don't know, but it also may not be and personally, I think they should wait. Over around a year or two, they may have seen that they do not love each other, and maybe they still love each other, but all it takes it time. Time. But if they are dead set on getting married then there is nothing you can do because it is not your decision. I empathize. You're worried about your friend. I feel for you. I've been put in the same position as you before. Good luck.
2007-03-27 16:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Audra M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My take on your question is that she is too young to get married. Many people nowadays get married for the wrong reasons and that is why many marriages end in divorces. It does not pay to jump into marriage at too young an age - many usually jump out of it before they know it due to lack of emotional maturity.
Well, if your friend blatantly refuses to listen to the voice of reason and insists on walking down the aisle at such a young age, I guess there is nothing much that you can do but to wish her well. If she exerts enough patience and courage, she could brace through the storms that come with the married life; if not, then a shipwreck awaits. Experience they say is the best teacher.
2007-03-27 13:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by OGB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is way too extremely young. ESPECIALLY after less than a year of dating. I'm 20 and I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and marriage hasn't even come up. If she gets married, she's got to realize there won't be any clubbing with friends in college (if she even makes it there), living with a roommate who's your best friend, and basically any important experience that she'll miss out on. NO NO NO. Tell her she's crazy and for your own good, if they go through with it AND decide to have kids, I think it's time for new, more responsible, smarter friends.
2007-03-27 12:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by victoria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a person may also be fortunately married and consider approximately pursuing an affair when you consider that it is intriguing for him that a unusual girl reveals him wonderful. A month in the past you desired extra time with him and now you're going to finish it? What's up with that? You will have to have not ever pursued him within the first location or not ever lower back his feelings. He's off limits....cross get your possess. Men are susceptible minded commonly, exceptionally whilst a lady throws herself at him that you very nearly did when you consider that you did not say no. Believe me, he is taking it sluggish with you when you consider that at the same time he's flattered, he is considering two times, he is looking to do the proper factor via his spouse. Break it off with him earlier than a flawlessly well marriage is ruined when you consider that of your loss of morals.
2016-09-05 18:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I really don't think so. If the couple is truely in love, then I'm sure they can make it through. It'll be hard, but thet can do it. And nevermind it when people say that they'll miss out on tons of stuff, and they are just being able to experience life because if the couple if truly in love then they wont be missing out on anything because they have eachother and they will grow to know the world together. Now a days, the odds arnt good for young couples. But, who says they arnt different?
2007-03-27 12:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion your friend should wait a little longer to make an important life long decision like marriage. She hasn't even been with her fiance for a year and I think they still need to learn alot about each other. Now, me on the other hand, have been with my common-law spouse for 18 years without being married but we were both married,to different people, by your friend's age and quickly divorced.Good Luck
2007-03-27 12:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is to early to be married, after all I did get married when I was 18 myself, and I am 28 now with 2 kids, and I am happy, I feel like I got everything done that I needed to get done before I got married, I love my wife, and I love my life, but I guess it depends on the person, there are alot of tragic divorce stories, but those stories involve people of all ages, and ages in which they got married, so I guess you never know. But if a person is truly in love should it matter, I mean if they get married are you afraid they will miss out on something?, I dont think theres anything to miss.
2007-03-27 12:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by Just some dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi i think ,she is old enough to know if it too soon or not ,to get married i got married at 19 and had a child at 20 and it was the best decision i ever made i have no regrets if she feels she is ready be supportive of her cause she needs u more than any1 friends should be there through thick and thin good luck 2 u and her.remember age is just a number .!!
2007-03-27 13:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by the mother of a KING 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule, people who marry younger tend to divorce more.
What matters more in this case is how mature your friend is and what she wants out of life. One thing though is that most people change a lot in their 20s.
All in all, this seems unwise. Why not wait a few years? Save some money, learn what you want to do, etc. That's a better way to start.
2007-03-28 04:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule, people who marry younger tend to divorce more.
What matters more in this case is how mature your friend is and what she wants out of life. One thing though is that most people change a lot in their 20s.
All in all, this seems unwise. Why not wait a few years? Save some money, learn what you want to do, etc. That's a better way to start.
2007-03-27 12:55:37 · answer #11 · answered by skellyatsogang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋